[ SECRET POST #2646 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2646 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Free! Iwatobi Swim Club]


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[Love so Life]


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[the last leg]


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[Karen Gillian/Doctor Who]


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[True Detective]


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[Yume Nikki]


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[Black Dagger Brotherhood Series]


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[Mass Effect]


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Notes:

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Comments

Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

Have you ever had any moments of "harsher in hindsight," as TV Tropes would put it? As in, realized something was really not okay or inappropriate after the fact?

Can apply to RL, fiction, TV commercials, anything really.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

When I was in high school, a friend's male friend IMed me on her name - he told me who he was, but proceeded to ask me what I was wearing. I was an incredibly naive teenager, so I proceeded to tell him. My friend explained to me the next day at school that it was not supposed to be an innocent question. It's not really harsher in hindsight, but it wasn't exactly, well, innocent.

I'm sure some kind of trigger warning applies this concerning sex and minors

[fingalsanteater]

Haha, I had this thought the other day about this situation with my friend when I was 10-11. She was so weirdly insistent and desperate that I shower with her because she said her dad would get mad if we used a lot of hot water. I did, even though I thought the whole thing was really strange at the time, but thinking back on it 16 years later it seems even weirder and possibly more awful. Like, her dad wasn't even home and he didn't care about us cooking by ourselves or anything like that? So why did we have to shower together? I'll always wonder if the whole thing was just an innocent ploy to get me in the shower with her, or something more terrible.

Re: I'm sure some kind of trigger warning applies this concerning sex and minors

[herpymcderp]

........Oh dear lord you just reminded me of something similar. Only the girl was like 7 and I ...wow. I feel retroactively violated.

Re: I'm sure some kind of trigger warning applies this concerning sex and minors

[(Anonymous)]

IDK, lots of kids cook without supervision at 10-11--I think I was allowed to fry meat and cut up chicken at that age, anyway. On the other hand, you never know what pet economies people have--her dad might have gotten all exercised over long showers. In my old neighborhood, the girls who lived across the street were restricted to 10 minute showers, and their dad used to stand outside the bathroom with a stopwatch and cut off the water if they were in there longer than 10 minutes. In fairness, these people had trouble with their septic tank, but you never know what weird little rules and pet economies people will have, or how exercised they can get when people in the household don't abide by them.

Re: I'm sure some kind of trigger warning applies this concerning sex and minors

[(Anonymous)]

her dad might have gotten all exercised over long showers

lmao, did you mean "worked up"?

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[feotakahari]

My mother used to refer to K, the mother of one of the kids she tutored, as the crazy mom. One day, I used the term without knowing that K was around to overhear me. She didn't take it well, to say the least.

My mother said the lesson I should have learned from that is that there are things you shouldn't say outside your family. I think that's bullshit. What I learned is that there are some things you don't call people, and I should never have used the term or let my mother use it.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

Given that she probably would have taken it equally badly if you'd called her the really obnoxious mom, I think the lesson to be learned is that kids repeat things, especially if you never make it clear they shouldn't.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

No, I definitely think your mother has the better lesson. "Knowing your audience/who's listening" is way more useful "just don't say mean things, okay?" The first one's realistic, the second one's expecting people to be saints, or at least nice most of the time. Ain't happening.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[chardmonster]

So she heard a child call her "the crazy mom" and she "didn't take it well."

Again, hearing it from a child.

I'd say she probably deserved to be called The Crazy Mom.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[dethtoll]

I sometimes go back to read some things I wrote or said even as recently as two, three years ago and wince.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

Is that not a good sign though? It means you have grown/matured in the intervening years. See it as a positive sign maybe? "At least I am no longer like that." &c.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time... Trigger Warning

[(Anonymous)]

When I was younger (like 8), I had a friend who always begged me to come over to her house and always tried to get me to stay as long as possible and would become very upset whenever I had to leave. She also had a very elaborate fantasy life and seemed to pretty much live inside it (much more so than any other child I knew). Another strange thing was she knew a lot about sex. Like, way, way more than any eight year old should (and this was before the internet) and would always lie and tell me that she was having sex with various boys in our class. All of these things combined with the fact that she always tried to avoid talking about her step father made me think, years later, that she was likely being abused in some way. I didn't understand it at the time, but I'm now pretty sure there was something wrong going on in that house. She moved away when I was around 10, but I think about her a lot and wonder if she really was being abused and if she ever got help. I don't even remember her last name tbh

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time... Trigger Warning

[(Anonymous)]

Wow... that is weird, yeah. :( The sex part could just be that her family let her watch/hear stuff she shouldn't have, I had a friend like that (I highly doubt she was abused, her parents just weren't the... classiest), but altogether, that does sound weird. I too hope that if anything bad really was going on, she got herself some help.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

Two things, which are less me not knowing they were bad and more me knowing they were bad, but not saying anything because grown ups are useless, right? :/

One time a friend of mine told me a teacher at our school made a sexual comment to her friend. Another friend told me a special ed teacher was also a coach, and made fun of the mentally challenged kids she worked with. On both occasions I wish I'd said something, especially with the former, but I didn't because I didn't know what had been exaggerated/miscontrued.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

When I was in 4th or 5th grade I wore my hair in two ponytails to school. The boys in my class made fun of me and called them "handles". I had no idea what it actually meant at the time, just that it was mean and I would never wear my hair in that way or any way that would get attention again. Years later looking back I am amazed at how inappropriate and awful that comment was, and wonder if the boys even knew what they were saying.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

I had a teacher in high school who used the term "forcible rape" a lot (it was a law class). It bothered me at the time, but now I realize the implications of the term, and it really bothers me because I did like this guy so much, and I don't want to think of him as a sexist.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[eaten_by_bears]

If it helps, it is a legal term. It's used to distinguish it from things like statutory rape.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

well, go ahead and don't think of him as a sexist. Unless he was like, snickering over the concept, there's nothing sexist about discussing forcible rape in that context. It sounds more like he was being a teacher doing his job and using valid and correct terminology.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[kryptoncat]

When I was little, I used to love pretending like I was Harriet the Spy. One day a friend of my mom came to visit, so I hid behind the couch with a dictionary and listened to their conversation. When they said a word I didn't know, I would look it up. After looking up the word 'abortion', I decided to stop playing that game. I now wonder if they were talking about someone else, or if it was my mom's friend who had an abortion. The memory feels very surreal.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[eaten_by_bears]

My best friend in high school.

All of my friends group had some kind of problem. And recreational drug use was popular at that school. But she cut herself a lot, and took a lot of drugs, and tried to kill herself more than once, and had an older boyfriend that took her out to a barn in the middle of nowhere where he and his friend fucked her. I knew he was a sonofabitch, and I would've beaten the shit out of him if she'd shown me who he was. (she only gave me a first name, and he went to another school)

What I didn't know because I was a kid is that she fit the classic pattern of a kid who'd been sexually abused by an adult. Just, a lot of the things she said and did, a lot of how she acted. And now that I'm grown up I wonder how the hell the adults around us could've missed it.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

And now that I'm grown up I wonder how the hell the adults around us could've missed it.

They probably missed it because you knew way more about her than any other person, let alone adult. It never ceases to amaze, and scare, me how much children keep hidden from adults. Even more so when it comes to teenagers.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

I have no RL examples, but the BSC had thirteen-year-olds in some really weird situations (dating, acting too old for their age in general, having crushes on guys in their twenties). That just pings my, "WTF are these ghosties thinking and have they met children?" Probably tame compared to SVH, though.

Also, as much as I love Tamora Pierce, a lot of her descriptions of skin colour make me wince.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[caecilia]

I love that there were a bunch of disturbing RL examples and then this.

Yeah, the BSC was hilariously fucked up.

Re: Things you thought nothing of at the time...

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I never understood how so many nine year olds read SVH. O_o I stuck with the "younger" books, personally.

And yeah, BSC had so many things that are very creepy in hindsight, I do have to wonder if the ghosties really thought about it. I realize they were kid's books, but still... and they didn't exactly handle things like race well either. "Jessi's black, but we still like her!" WTF?