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⌈ Secret Post #2649 ⌋

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[AlternateHistory.com : Malê Rising]

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[Orwell]

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[Colditz]

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15. [WARNING for child molestation]

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I feel like I am in some sort of denial (hence the title of this post!) I'm just not sure what kind.

When I was a teenager I wasn't particularly interested in guys or girls (though I didn't know there was a name for it at the time) but I knew I was expected to date boys, so I did date the one guy, had sex with him, and it wasn't too long after the relationship ended that I first read about asexuality. I thought I probably was but I figured as long as I didn't claim the label there was still the chance that I would turn out 'normal' eventually but now I feel like I'm just kidding myself and I need to accept the reality.

I know a lot of people say there's nothing wrong with being asexual and it's totally fine, so I'm trying to believe that but then there's the part of me that does think it's a problem that needs to be cured so I can be 'normal'. And in the middle of all this I'm trying to learn more about it and coming across the concept that romantic attraction is separate from sexual attraction and I think that maybe that's the missing piece I haven't quite gotten. In all my confusion I'd never really considered that maybe I was actually interested in women because I was never interested in them sexually, but like I said before, when I think back on the way I've felt about certain girls in the past, with the idea that it's possible to have romantic feelings without sexual ones, it starts to make sense.

So then I think ok, I should date a girl, but then I come back to feeling like *any* sort of romantic relationship is not something I'm interested in. But I'm not sure if I genuinely feel that way or I'm just telling myself I do because I don't feel like the people around me would approve of me dating a girl (even if they've given me no reason to think that way). And then there's the (most likely?) asexual aspect and the fact that the likelihood of finding someone compatible probably isn't that high and then I think well maybe I'm just using not being able to find someone compatible as an excuse because if that was what I *really* wanted, I would find it somehow, and so I must not really want it after all.

So there are just all these various thoughts floating around in my mind and I'm not sure how to fit all the pieces together, and I think you're right...I think the reason for that is that it's really hard to sort out what it is I *actually* want vs. what I think I *should* want.

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Re: I think I'm in denial about my sexuality