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⌈ Secret Post #2650 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Breaking up help :(

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe wait until the day after the big event.

As for tips, write down beforehand what you want to say. Organize your thoughts and lay it all out for yourself so when you have to talk to him you don't get all muddled due to nerves or something.

Be honest, don't apologize too much, keep it concise. Don't try and make it OK, that'll be more about your own guilt and break-ups are sucky and people don't have to be OK about them. Remember that you don't have to feel guilty about this and that it's not always someone's fault that a relationship doesn't work out. And remember that it's better to call it quits on the relationship rather than stay with someone you're not happy with or let the relationship get to the point where you're both miserable.

And remember that it's going to suck and be awkward and weird, but it'll be okay in the future and it's something that needs to be done. Good luck!

Re: Breaking up help :(

[(Anonymous)]

Don't try and make it OK, that'll be more about your own guilt and break-ups are sucky and people don't have to be OK about them.

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Unless he's already completely checked out of the relationship himself (which you - OP - probably would have picked up on if he had, assuming that's not the very reason you want to break up with him), he's going to be upset about the break-up and there's nothing to be done about that.

I don't know the reasons for you wanting to end the relationship, OP, but whatever the case, it's best not to try to make either of you into a villain and to emphasize instead that there's nothing wrong with either of you* but it just isn't working out anymore. Don't tell him you're awful and he's better off without you because that makes it sound like he has bad taste. I had an ex-boyfriend who followed this tactic thinking it would make me feel better and instead it crushed my self-esteem and kept me from trying to form any new relationships for a while because I felt I couldn't trust my judgement.

*If he did something horrible, I think you have a right to mention that, but it doesn't sound like that's the case, here.