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⌈ Secret Post #2650 ⌋

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Re: Breaking up help :(

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, anon. Breaking up is never easy, so there's no way to make it 100% not-crappy. A lot depends on the reason why you're breaking up. I'd wait till after the event, but whether or not it's that night or the next day is up to you. As for the rest:

* Keep it short, concise, and compassionate. Remember, you can't take away all the hurt feelings, so please don't try. Keep apologies to a minimum. Don't say "I hope we can still be friends" unless you actually want to be friends, and even then keep in mind that this probably won't work. It rarely does.

* You're going to want to take on a huge burden of guilt and say the sorts of things that make you and your soon-to-be-ex better. Keep that to a minimum, too. It doesn't really fix things and it only prolongs the pain. I'm not saying to be brutal about it, but don't heap on the sympathy too much because it's going to come off as a tad insincere. You're sorry, but not so sorry that you aren't breaking up. Keep it short and sweet.

* He's going to want to know why. You are not obligated to tell him. It's better if you refrain from giving (or being cajoled or browbeaten into giving) a long, detailed explanation as to why you're breaking up. This can turn ugly fast, so avoid it. I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me" and repeat ad nauseum. Do not respond to requests for how he can fix things, just move it along. "I wish you the best." (Assuming he's not an asshole and you do actually wish him well, that is.)

* If you don't want him to contact you after the break-up (either forever or for a set amount of time), be upfront about this. "I'm going to need to work through this on my own." The tone of voice to aim for here is sad, but firm.

Don't be scared. I get the impression you're fairly young. High school or college? Relationships at this age don't last forever and they're absolutely survivable. For both of you.