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⌈ Secret Post #2652 ⌋

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Can anyone help me with this?

[(Anonymous)]

(This is directed more to the bi/gay/les people on here but I'm willing to take anyone's advice.)

How did you know when your attraction to the same gender was more than just a phase? I mean, I've kissed a few girls and given serious thought to actually dating one. The problem is that most of the people I've asked about this say that I'm just experimenting and that I'll grow out of it. Basically I don't know if I'm actually bisexual or if it's just curiosity driving the feelings of attraction so... help?

WHO THE FUCK CARES?

[insanenoodlyguy]

First off, that thinking is retarded. Yeah, sexuality can be fluid in some people, but so what?

You are attracted to girls now. You have an interest in dating girls now. Why on earth (assuming there is a girl or girls interested and able) would you not date one if you do indeed want to date one?

If it doesn't work out, and 10 years from now you aren't attracted to ladies... so what? I'd think you'd have more regrets never giving it a shot then doing something you wanted to do and it didn't work out.

And all of that assumes you do indeed change in the future. Which is hardly set in stone. Maybe you should actually try getting with a girl and finding out how you feel about it. That seems to be a lot smarter of a way then those idiots or even me telling you how you should feel based on some bullshit. If your experimenting, EXPERIMENT! And if it becomes more then an experiment TELL THOSE PEOPLE INSISTING OTHERWISE TO EAT A SHIT MOUNTAIN.

TL;DR Fuck other people, the only way your gonna find out if you like dating girls as much as you think you do is to DATE A FUCKING GIRL. If in the future you stop wanting that THAT DOESN'T MATTER AT ALL.

Re: Can anyone help me with this?

[(Anonymous)]

Since the dawn of time, or maybe just since the 1890s or so, people have been using that "it's just a phase" thing to erase bisexuality from the map of human life. If it turns out to be true in your case, that's ok -- but you won't know that except in retrospect, and other people definitely can't know that for you.

Your uncertainty is ok. There's a really strong cultural construct around sexuality that we have to have Always Known or else it doesn't count, and that's probably pretty destructive.

Try not to worry about it too much. Date people if you want to date them; if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't. Don't pretend you're more sure than you are of your feelings -- you should probably talk about it with your maybe-girlfriend if you decide to date -- but don't dismiss them because of what other people say, either. You're a real person and all of your attractions and emotions are real right now, and they won't become not real if they change.

Re: Can anyone help me with this?

[(Anonymous)]

okay real talk, I'm gay, and I know the gay rights/LGBT movement has made a huge deal about being "born this way" and sexuality being hard-wired and everything else in a desperate attempt to make us look pitiable and sympathetic, but going through a bi phase is not the worst thing in the world. not knowing your sexuality is not terrible. experimenting is not a sin. you can do whatever you want! explore whatever options you have. if you realize it was just curiosity and you were never into women, well then that's that! if you're bi but in a few years you're just not feeling it at all for women anymore, then fine! your sexuality can adjust throughout your lifetime, it's not a giant life decision that you have to cement in stone for all time. just be true to whatever person you are at this moment, and let the people you're dating know upfront that you're still unsure about the situation yourself.