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⌈ Secret Post #2667 ⌋

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Comments

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Look dude, she has literally said to me that romance movies are where she got most of her ideas about relationships and that she has issues dealing with it when dudes irl don't act like dudes in the movies. I'm not sure how you're assuming that the movies didn't affect her badly or why you're trying so hard to pretend that the media we consume in large quantities doesn't ever affect us. I didn't say it was harmful to all women, btw. I said it CAN be harmful to PEOPLE who internalize the unhealthy themes and ideas, like my friend did.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

I think you and your buddy both need to chill out.

Are romance movies great? Not most of them. Is idolizing Katherine Heigl a good thing? No. It's pretty clear that your friend is a little delusional, but I agree with AYRT that she'd find something else to glom onto if romance movies didn't exist. (It's not like romance novels haven't existed for 200 years or anything...)

This also doesn't deny that romance movies are generally female-centric, and they are literally the only way some female filmmakers can even stay in the industry. Some women have even seen their characters altered by producers to be almost unrecognizable when the movie comes out.

And seriously, don't police what your friend should watch/not watch. If YOU don't want to watch movies she likes, tell her it's just not your thing. If she presses you, or you feel like the relationship is just not even in the "hear her complaints" situation, maybe it's time for bygones to be bygones and let her go.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

I'd say the problem is with guys not her. If you can't find a guy that is even nice (which is pretty much all there is in romantic movie: guys who are nice, treat you right, and listen to you), then you need to be around different guys. Not get lower standards.

Living up to a romantic movie isn't hard. My BF has to be better than the guys in romantic movies, and none of them have failed me. They listen to what I want and give me what I want...that's pretty simple relationship stuff.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

It sounds like you want to blame the movies and not your friend.