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⌈ Secret Post #2674 ⌋

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Re: Sticky situation

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's possible, but I don't think it happens as often as people think. At least... not in a healthy, non-destructive way. I see that polyamory isn't an option in your situation, which means that yes, a little distance from your friend might be a good idea. It doesn't have to be a dick move because surely your relationship has periods where one or the other of you is busy and you don't see each other for a while?

Do that for a month or so. Or keep in touch via e-mail or something a step or two removed from what you normally do. In the meantime, focus on other things: your hobbies and interests outside of romantic relationships, your relationship with your SO, etc. Do something with the SO that's new and fresh, like you're two people who just met and are going on a date. Don't "soldier through it" by moping around and dwelling on the issue. Give yourself some time away so that you're not right in the middle of things trying to untangle all your feels.

I say this because... well, it's a cliche that when you're in a long term relationship, sooner or later the grass is going to look greener on the other side. Most of the time it's NOT greener... it just looks like it because your relationship is a well-worn path full of unromantic things like arguments over who takes out the trash, farting in bed, and the 1001 annoying little things that get on your nerves when you've had a bad day. Romances with a person you don't have to see every morning and every night have none of that, which is why they feel more romantic. They're ripe with possibilities and because they lack the same flaws and meh bits, our imagination fills those cracks with beautiful fantasies that are easily mistaken for reality. More than one marriage has blown up over stuff like this, and I sense you don't want yours to be a casualty.

Good luck, OP.

Re: Sticky situation

[(Anonymous)]

What you said makes a lot of sense to me, and seems like the best way forward. Thank you thank you thank you.