[ SECRET POST #2676 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2676 ⌋

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Comments

[duaedesigns]

I'd not go public. You'd get 'attention' yes, but most likely you'd be cast as the Lying Hobag who tempted the pure innocent BNF angel to sin. And she can weep about her moment of weakness and be comforted by her boyfriend. A boyfriend who might actually lash out at you. Because as a general rule, people don't want to think the person they love would hurt them, so they'll blame anything and anyone for the hurt but their SO.

Plus, people never stop and think generally cheaters are very very good at spinning webs of lies that make the person they're cheating with feel like it's Different somehow, this time. Of course cheating is awful! But they're not awful, so it's not really cheating. They're going to break up with their SO soon. It's really over and they just haven't made it official. They suspect their SO is cheating on them first. They really love you so very, very much more. They're just going on pity dates with their SO because they don't want to break their heart and anyway they think they might be a bit unstable and it would be dangerous.

As a general rule, villains never go "Muhahaha! I'm SO EVIL. I want to have an affair with you, TO HURT MY SO! You up for some good relationship poisoning?" "HECK YEAH!"

[(Anonymous)]

You are jumping through all kinds of hoops to absolve the OP of being a shitty person, aren't you.

[duaedesigns]

Not really, I'm mostly bringing this from a recent advice post on another forum where a lot of people talked about real life experiences both being the one who's SO cheated, and who were the ones used by cheaters.

When I was cheated on, the other woman explained to me that my then-ex told her that he and I were only together for appearance sake and she didn't know why I was causing such a fuss about it, since we were never 'really' dating. I was only looking for attention by pretending it was real.

At the time I thought she was full of it, but looking back, yeah, that's probably exactly what he told her and she truly believed him. Especially as he did the same thing a few more times, with the same story each time.

[(Anonymous)]

True enough, she could just have been that much of a sucker. But more likely, she wanted to believe him. Anything to convince herself that what she was doing wasn't disgusting and shameful.

[duaedesigns]

Not that it's the same thing as abuse, but how many women fall prey to "Oh sure, he hit me. But it was only because Reason, and he says he'll never do it again." ? People are good at convincing themselves most anything when it comes to someone they love. Or people who insist family member would never ever commit a foul crime that they've been convinced of with no room for doubt? Or when your friend is kind of a serial rapist but he's so cool to hang around with can it really be THAT bad?

[(Anonymous)]

People are good at convincing themselves most anything when it comes to someone they love.

But also when it comes to something they really, really want to do even though they basically know it's stupid, self-destructive, or likely to hurt other people--or purely horrible, like continuing to hang out with their fun, cool friend the rapist. People are good at making excuses for their own bad behavior, or convincing themselves that what they want to do for purely selfish reasons is for everybody's good.