[ SECRET POST #2686 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2686 ⌋

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Comments

Re: NSFW rant thread

[feotakahari]

Why in holy hell are you in a relationship with someone you don't think would be faithful? And if you don't think any man would be faithful, why the hell are you in a relationship at all?

(I miss when I didn't realize I was asexual. Then I could call bullshit on people who thought all men were cheaters because I'd never cheat on someone. Now that I know I wouldn't want to have sex with someone in the first place, I can't make the same argument.)

Edit: BTW, did you know the assumption used to be that women were incapable of monogomy and men should stop expecting them not to cheat? Look up "Cosi Fan Tutte" sometime.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

Because I love him regardless, and the alternative is going through life alone. I am not by any means conventionally beautiful, and I am socially awkward. I came to accept a long time ago that I would always be someone's last resort.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[feotakahari]

I've seen a grotesquely fat bald man in a wheelchair married to a woman who seemed to genuinely love him. I don't think he was her last resort, and if women are almost the same proportion of the population as men, it seems unlikely that women have more need of being last resorts than men do.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

Women are more forgiving of flaws than men in my experience.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[feotakahari]

It's not productive or useful for me to get this angry at someone who isn't angry at all. I apologize for letting myself get so worked up, and I'll back away from this topic.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry, for some reason I hadn't realised you were getting worked up. This is something of a complicated subject for me, I genuinely wasn't trying to upset you with my opinions. Please accept my apologies.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

And having seen your comment below, I can only reiterate my most sincere apologies.

I have had a lot -a *lot* - of poisonous men in my life, starting with several immediate family members.

Sometimes it becomes very hard to escape that mindset. Some days I become entrenched in it, like today.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[diet_poison]

Um.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

I know it's probably really hard to believe, but you are not someone's last resort. You are worthy of love. You have someone who loves you, and he loves you because you're you, not because he couldn't find anyone better.

I sincerely hope that one day you will come to a place where you can believe that. I'm so sorry for the things that you've gone through.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

Wait you're a guy?

Re: NSFW rant thread

[feotakahari]

Time was, I hated this reaction, but as I recognized that I didn't consider myself male, I got to the point where I love it. On the Internet, I'm consistently assumed to be female unless I say otherwise. Same goes for the phone, thanks to my feminine voice. In person . . . well, I have an Abe Lincoln beard and a Hulk Hogan mustache. I enjoy being able to switch between the two perceptions without having to change anything about how I talk and act.

I don't identify as either gender, but I consider myself to be in the "male box," at least in person. It's like my being in the "Asperger's box"--I do not have Asperger's and have never claimed to, but people who meet me often think I have it, so their reactions to me are influenced by the stereotypes they have of people with Asperger's. That's why I get so worked up when folks stereotype men--I don't feel like I can easily escape from such stereotypes in my day-to-day life.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[(Anonymous)]

I hope this doesn't come out strange, but it's interesting to me that you're asexual, because you have some of the most amazing smut recs.

Re: NSFW rant thread

[feotakahari]

My tastes aren't limited by what's physically possible. :) Besides, I find love to be a fascinating subject, since it gets people who are otherwise guarded to lower their barriers and show their true feelings, and most people connect love with sex.