[ SECRET POST #2693 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2693 ⌋

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Comments

[jaybie_jarrett]

I do agree about people using "autist" as an insult, that really makes me angry and sometimes a little bit hurt. (I remember one time when someone used 'sperging out" it actually upset me and reminded me of being teased).

I will agree that autism can effect people behaviors and reasonably asking for accommodation because of autism is not the same as using it as an excuse. and it sucks when people act like wanting ANY accommodations from others is the same as acting like they can do whatever they want.

(I once asked my parents if I could bring a notebook to church to write something other than notes on the sermon because I have OCD (which does give me religious related invasive thoughts) and when I just listen to the sermon it gives me horrible anxiety. My dad told me I was just"being a victim" and I got told I should 'deal with it instead of running away'. As if giving myself a slight diversion of attention is the same as running away. Besides for all anybody around me knows, I MIGHT be writing notes on the sermon. What I'm writing in my notebook isn't really anyone else's business.)

But what I don't agree with is people responding when people point out what their doing wrong , "I have autism stop BULLYING me". I swear I saw this thing on tumblr where this girl made a comment about people getting mad at her and when someone told her what she did,(including telling people to kill themselves and cyber bullying behavior). She flipped out on them claiming that her behavior was her having "autistic meltdowns" and then accused the other person who called her out of harassing her and being a creep.

In a fandom I was(DP) in there was this girl who loved the protagonist and hated a lead female character (because she was a goth) and would always insult her. She approached a few DP fanclubs with this entitled attitude and badmouthed the female character referring to her as "our enemy". When people told her not to character bash and refused to let her join the group she threw a fit and claimed she was entitled to be in the group. She also insulted people's art because they included or drew the protagonist paired with the character she hated and she stalked this one user who drew art for the show and even sent the user her address asking her to send DP art to her. When the user stopped drawing for the fandom this girl tried to talk to her friends about forcing her to draw DP art again. When called on her behavior she claimed to be autistic and used it as an excuse. She also accused someone who warned other users of her of lying. She also tried to tell someone who she hurt to "be a good person and forgive her"

That is the kind of behavior that autism DOES NOT excuse. You can't do whatever you want, and hurt whoever you want and then claim you're a victim being bullied when people call you out on it.

Its okay to remind people that you struggle with social things because you have autism. Just remember that you still have to try.

[(Anonymous)]

I swear I saw this thing on tumblr where this girl made a comment about people getting mad at her and when someone told her what she did,(including telling people to kill themselves and cyber bullying behavior). She flipped out on them claiming that her behavior was her having "autistic meltdowns" and then accused the other person who called her out of harassing her and being a creep.

I either know exactly who you're talking about. Does their username start with an H?

[jaybie_jarrett]

I can't remember I think the one I saw was the user who used to be known as antfucker.

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, I was thinking of hordeofcum. Highly unpleasant person, I'd recommend avoiding them.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah.

Honestly I'd be wary of anyone who goes around telling people to die over a simple disagreement. Or people who think responding to them on tumblr constitutes as harassment or stalking.

[arcadiaego]

With those usernames, who would have guessed. (Sorry.)

[thistlechaser]

With a name like that, no warning to avoid them should be needed.

[dinogrrl]

Heh, I used to doodle at church all the time (still do!)...and during class, and pretty much whenever I'm expected to sit still and listen for any length of time. I have OCD that compels me to keep my hands busy, and drawing is the least destructive thing I've found to make my OCD-brain shut up. Thankfully, my parents quickly realized that yes, I was actually paying attention to whatever the pastor's saying (they would sometimes ask me about the sermon afterwards), and I think they were just happy I was being quiet for such long periods of time, so they let me doodle.

You can't do whatever you want, and hurt whoever you want and then claim you're a victim being bullied when people call you out on it.
Agreed. Social interaction is a two-way street, and if you're going to insist on going north in the south lane, you can't get mad when people tell you to get back on your side of the road.

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah. Mine used to do that. But now I guess I'm tool old in their opinions and now they say it's disrespectful and if they let me they'll have to let my younger sister do it, and they don't want to do that.

I have somehow managed to avoid telling people to kill themselves even when I was having a meltdown. I have managed to avoid bullying people online, I understand that it's wrong. and if someone told me what I was doing was hurting people when I asked I sure as hell wouldn't accuse them of stalking me.

(reblogging =/=Stalking. I just don't get people who think they're being harassed when people on tumblr interact with them. It's a social media site FFS)

[mimi-sardinia.livejournal.com]

Personal opinion of another church drawer? It's not disrespectful, especially if you have enough attention to still listen while you draw. It's also a habit that is quiet.

[jaybie_jarrett]

sorry I was late to this.

Thanks. I wish I could convince them of that.

[mimi-sardinia.livejournal.com]

I used to draw in church as a kid as well. It's a way of keeping a child who is not old enough to really absorb the sermon quietly busy. As I grew older I listened to the sermon more, though the habit of taking a bag full of drawing equipment never halted.

[diet_poison]

I draw/write stuff in church too. I don't have OCD or ADD (that I know of lol) but I get really restless when I have to pay attention to one thing that isn't 100% engaging. And I'm not forced to go to church either - I go because I want to, and then I sometimes draw in the margins of my program while still paying attention to the sermon.

[jaybie_jarrett]

I used to be allowed to draw and write while listening and I actually talked about my folks with it afterward. I don't know why they suddenly changed their minds.

[(Anonymous)]

She flipped out on them claiming that her behavior was her having "autistic meltdowns" and then accused the other person who called her out of harassing her and being a creep.

...What. But. That's not how meltdowns work? Having a meltdown is like - okay, let's take computers. A shutdown is the computer freezing, might need a hard restart (removing yourself / being removed from the situation so you can get your brain in working order again). A meltdown is like... something has gone badly wrong with the computer and there's drivers crashing and things going offline and programs freezing up (I'm normally fairly verbal, but go nonverbal with both meltdowns and shutdowns) and all sorts of bad business. There may be crying or yelling or stress-stimming, but you're generally not able to do much at all, including writing on the computer in a semi-legible manner. Your brain is just too overloaded and augh to process it.

There IS, however, one thing that looks superficially like a meltdown, but is intentional and controllable by the person who's having it. It's called a fucking tantrum.