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Public displays of Affection?

I don't mean a quick peck "good-bye" and departure. But full on swallowing each other's faces in the middle of a busy public area.

Personally, I hate it. I find it gross. Yesterday, I was in a Mexican restaurant in line at the cashier ordering some take out. A young couple (20 somethings) walked up behind me and proceeded to make out. I tried to ignore them but the noises they were making sounded like they were trying to molest a fish. And if that description makes you go, "Oh, EW!" now you know how I felt. Barely two feet away from me and going at it like they were trying to physically merge with each other. Worse, everyone around the couple started to get pretty uncomfortable. They too try to ignore the couple but you could see the distress on their faces. There's a time and a place for everything. But the cashier line at a Mexican restaurant is not the place to be checking each other tonsils with their tongues.

I feel the same as you do about that stuff, honestly.

How does it make me feel? Kind of sad, usually.

But do I object to it, no. They're happy, I guess, and I can't object to that.

Re: How do you feel about PDA?

diet_poison - 2014-06-03 00:48 (UTC) - Expand

It makes me uncomfortable if it's more than a quick kiss or hugs. It feels like I'm invading their personal space.

I have the same issue with public phone calls, too.

Yeah, that sounds gross. I'm okay with brief kisses and hugging and hand holding and all. But I don't want to be able to hear to most smooshes of tongues against each other. Like. At all.

I'm ok with them. It's cute.

I like PDA. My own, or others'. I personally won't go into full make-out mode, but I totally will kiss and be physical in public. Seeing other people be in love and into each other makes me happy.

As for the heavier stuff...I wouldn't d it myself, but it doesn't bother me very much. I've seen even seen strangers masturbating each other at a party once. I think it's amusing more than anything else.

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I'm cool with holding hands and quick kisses, that kinda thing. What you described? hell no. Unfortunately, I've seen stuff like that too.

Overt PDA, like what you described also makes me uncomfortable, like I shouldn't be in the vicinity to witness that.

One time I was at a McDonald's with a friend and her then-boyfriend, and he just slipped his hand into her shirt and everyone at our table was just going :T

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diet_poison - 2014-06-03 00:50 (UTC) - Expand

I'm sort of in the same boat as you.

I'm okay with hand-holding, arms around the waist/shoulders, heads resting on shoulders, etc. But the sort of thing that you're talking about definitely makes me uncomfortable.

A number of years ago, when I was working as a teller, I had a young couple at my counter who weren't making out per se, but who were rubbing themselves against one another such that I couldn't bear to look at them. It's just...awkward, and inappropriate.

It's never bothered me. PDA is a pretty common thing here - so much so I had trouble explaining the word to a friend once.

Sure, almost humping in a restaurant line is too much, but I've learned that what I consider heavy making out and what people who live in PDA-bothered cultures consider to be so are very, very different things.

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diet_poison - 2014-06-03 02:29 (UTC) - Expand

I don't mind hand-holding or chaste kisses and such. But full on making out in public and groping and stuff? I don't care who you are, go get a fucking room. No one else wants to see that shit.

I'm weird and think PDA is sweet. I get kind of that, "Ah, romance! :)" feeling. As long as everybody's clothes stay on and everybody's hands stay out of them, I pretty much don't have a problem.

I think quick kisses, hand-holding, snuggling, that kind of thing is cute and don't see it as a big deal. It's fine. The heavier stuff though...I can do without that. I feel like a voyeur (even if I try not to look) and it makes me uncomfortable.

Depends. I'm usually okay with it, to a point. It can even be cute.

But one time I saw this guy put his hands down his girlfriend's pants in line at an anime convention and finger her for a bit. Then not wash them before he picked up his pamphlet/perused stalls of shit for sale.

Duuuuuuuuude. Nooooooooo.

The question immediately made me think of:

"Kiss me."

"What?!"

"Public displays of affection make people uncomfortable."

"Yes, they do!"

I'm not fond of overt PDA myself, like small pecks on the cheek or lips? Absolutely fine, but anything more than that and I'm am going to get incredibly uncomfortable.

Not into it. Hand holding and snuggling is fine, but as soon as mouths get involved I want it short and dry.

I hate it too. Mostly because I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do in those situations. The worst is when you're a third wheel and your friends start making out. The floor or wall becomes very interesting in those moments. I hate being put in those situations. It's one thing if it's complete strangers that I can avoid, but how do I avoid the people I'm hanging out with?

I don't like it either. I'm with you - a peck is fine, eating face in public is not so much. I especially hate the noises they make.

Making out is a weird thing. I used to think it was inherently disgusting until I had a long term bf. Then I found out I rather enjoyed it...but I still think it's REALLY GROSS if other people are doing it. Like ew, get a room, go away.

Also:

Re: How do you feel about PDA?

(Anonymous) - 2014-06-03 04:30 (UTC) - Expand

I'm not really comfortable with anything more than a quick hug or a peck on the cheek, or brushing shoulders/holding hands. If it goes beyond that I start to feel that I'm intruding on the couple's privacy, and I often feel like I don't know what I'm supposed to do manners-wise. Like, if I'm talking to someone and their SO starts smooching on them, do I look away? Break off the conversation awkwardly mid-thread? Soldier on and pretend nothing is going on?

I'm not a demonstrative person at all, though, and I didn't grow up in a family where affection was expressed that way. :\

Quick kisses, hugging, hand holding? Knock yourself out, it's all good. Anything that involves me seeing someone's tonsils, hands up shirts or down pants, or worrying if your partner has turned into an anaconda and is going to swallow you whole... I think that's best done in private.

Especially in food places. Also, sitting on a partner's lap in a food place. It just seems like... you're here to eat? If you wanted to snuggle and eat, have a nice dinner at home where you can do whatever you want.

But at the same time, as long as I can avoid looking at the display, I'm not super chuffed.

ew ew ew ew ew

get a fucking room ewww

^ how I feel about PDA

Not really into it unless it's a hug. If people hold hands, whatever.

Heavy making out? Bleh. I'm not going to tell you to stop or whatever but it's not something that's going to brighten my day,

I'm not bothered by it in and of itself. If it's particularly intense, though, I tend to find it a little pathetic - like they're trying too hard, you know? Like, they're desperate to show off the fact that they are together, but if you have to suck face in public all the time, then you probably haven't sucked face all that much and you really have nothing to brag about.