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[ SECRET POST #2719 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2719 ⌋

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[Jared Leto, Doctor Strange]

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[WarioWare, Inc.: Mega Microgame$]

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[Star Trek: The Next Generation]

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[Odd Thomas]

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[Murdoch Mysteries]

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07. http://i.imgur.com/4VlZYj4.png
[porny, illustrated]

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[Big Time Rush]

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09. [SPOILERS for Game of Thrones]

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11. [SPOILERS for OUaT]

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[gore]

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13. [WARNING for abuse]

[Lie to Me]

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14. [WARNING for dub-con/non-con/etc]

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15. [WARNING for suicide]

[Rick and Morty]

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Dear Lady at the deli counter today,

I know you were first. But you should have let that father with the cranky two year old go first. Never mind that when the deli clerk went to the father first, you barked, "EXCUSE ME! I WAS HERE FIRST!!!!!!!" (I am sure the people out in the parking lot could have hear you.) Especially since the deli clerk's supervisor told him to take the father first. It was really heartless and petty of you to snap like that. The father, who was trying really hard to calm down his child, could have used a break like that. Never mind, the rest of us waiting for our orders could have used a break from a crying toddler. Not only did that father want to go in and out of the store to take care of his child, everyone within ear shot of the crying child wanted the kid to be taken home too. But no, you couldn't have showed one iota of mercy for anyone. Jerk.

-mekkio

Sorry, I'm 100% on the lady's side. You're right, the rest of you who were waiting shouldn't have had to listen to that, but that's the father's fault, and he shouldn't be rewarded for being a shitty parent. Your kid starts making a scene in public, you leave. You don't get to be inconsiderate of everyone around you, and get special treatment on top of that. The lady was there first, she should've been served first. Other people should not be punished because some dude failed to wear a condom.

If the father is by himself and needs to get groceries and is the only person to get groceries, what should he do? Go without?

Getting groceries? She said they were in a deli.

Anyway, no one said he should have to do without. Either be a considerate person and take the kid outside until they stop crying, or stay inside being a douche, but wait your turn. Other people shouldn't have to wait longer just because this guy has a kid. It's his responsibility to figure it out, not theirs.

She said they were in a deli.

Or he. I just realized I don't know mekkio's gender, so I'm sorry if I got it wrong.

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mekkio - 2014-06-14 01:36 (UTC) - Expand

There are delis (or at least deli counters) in most grocery stores nowadays.

Of course he shouldn't go without groceries in that case - but, you know, it's perfectly possible for a single parent to go to the store without dragging their small child along?

But what if he didn't have choice? What if he couldn't find a person to look after his child? What if he couldn't have afforded a child care provider. You should have seen him. He looked exhausted. Completely exhausted. Like this was the last thing on his to-do list and all he wanted was bed. My heart went out to him.

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100% agree with you. I know it's frustrating and you just want to get your shopping done, but you are not doing anyone - not you, not your kid, not the other shoppers - any favors by acting this way. If your kid is throwing a fit that doesn't stop, take them directly out of the store and either wait the fit out or leave. It's a pain in the ass but responsible parenting often is.

Also, that old lady could have her own issues and backstory. Maybe try thinking about that rather than just assuming she was a super rude snobby lady who doesn't care about children or something.

I can definitely understand the frustration of the situation but I disagree with where you place your frustration (you being the OP, not the anon I agree with...obviously).

This. If my sister and I started throwing a fit when we were in the store, we got taken out to go sit in the car until we calmed down.

We learned pretty quickly that fussing didn't accomplish anything other than making the shopping trip take longer and the other shoppers weren't subjected to our tantrums.

Seriously. It was exactly the same for my brother and I.

I don't understand why people are getting all bent out of shape at the notion of expecting people to be responsible parents. I guess that's just too much to ask these days.

Nah, sorry but I strongly disagree. The lady was absolutely right to insist that she should be served first when she was there first. I sure would have done the same, had I been in her position.
That guy having a toddler with him? His decision, his responsibility, not the lady's. And I get that a crying child is annoying, but yet again, it was the dad's decision to take the little one with him to the store. And who knows, maybe the woman you are angry with was in a hurry herself or had a long day at work or whatever?

it was the dad's decision to take the little one with him to the store

What, should he have left the kid outside like a dog? Leave it in the car and hope nothing happens? Give it to a stranger on the street while he pops into the store? Seriously, the guy was presumably alone with the kid, otherwise he could have gone outside while his companion stands in line at the counter.

I'm with Mekkio, the lady was incredibly rude. I get being annoyed when you had a long day or whatever (I'm not claiming I'm always gracious about having to do the polite thing), but actually being snippy to the employee? The poor guy was just doing his job, especially since the supervisor apparently also thought that the father should be served first. If the woman was in a hurry herself she could have said so without snapping at the employee. A quick "Excuse me, I'm really in a hurry" would have been enough and understandable.

No, obviously he shouldn't have left the kid outside like a dog or in the car, but he could have left it at home? A child will be just fine if you leave them alone for a short while, there's no reason to drag them along wherever you go.

And I have worked in retail and had customers being rude to me over rules I did not make. That comes with the job, just as some customers being rude for whatever other reason do. Does it suck? Yes. Can I change that? No. And I would have totally gotten why hat lady was angry and do think the supervisor made the wrong call, so there's that.

You don't leave small children home alone. It's illegal in most states.

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(Anonymous) - 2014-06-14 02:36 (UTC) - Expand

I don't know what he should've done with the kid, but that's kind of the point: I don't need to know what he should've done with the kid, and no one else does either. It's his kid, it's his job to figure out how to be a decent member of society without expecting people to cater to him just because he has a kid.

I don't see how expecting to be served first when you were there first is "being snippy" to the employee. But if she was, you're right, she shouldn't have directed her frustration at the employee. She should've been pissed at the supervisor who was enabling the entitled asshat of a father.

Entitled asshat? Jesus. He wasn't demanding to be served first. It was the supervisor who was showing some kindness. It was me who thought he should have been shown some mercy. He demanded squat.

What do you have against parents? Are you one of those people who simply hate children and the people who have them?

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(Anonymous) - 2014-06-14 20:21 (UTC) - Expand

Go back to CF_hardcore, asshole.

I think the lady should have been served first. But I think it's bitchy and totally obnoxious that she demanded to be served first. Unless someone specifically cut in front of you in line or something, you are being an annoying customer. Even as a fellow customer, I get secondhand embarrassment and rage seeing people act like pricks.

I think the lady should have been served first. But I think it's bitchy and totally obnoxious that she demanded to be served first.

This.

Also, and I say this as someone who works in retail, the resulting fall-out usually takes longer than waiting for that one customer to be served before you.

Maybe it would have been "the nice thing to do" but that doesn't mean that the woman was wrong for not doing it. Now you maybe right in that it was wrong of her to take it out on the clerk when s/he was only doing what s/he was told to by the boss, but still - she was not wrong to point out that she was there first.

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While her getting served first would probably have been the correct way to do things, I don't get why she wouldn't want the child out of the store as soon as possible herself.

Hahaha. Oh, this. I've seen people in queues offering the person behind them to go in front when they've got a whining child with them...

Nobody knows what other people are suffering. I have severe arthritis pain yet I look completely normal, as so many people delight in telling me. Many people have invisible problems. Just because we don't get cranky about it, doesn't mean we have to go give place to people who do. This is why queues exist.

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