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⌈ Secret Post #2726 ⌋

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07. [SPOILERS for Murder in the First]

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12. [WARNING for rape, abuse, pedophilia, incest, ironically enough none of which OP warned for]

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13. [WARNING for eating disorders]

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14. [WARNING for suicide]

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15. [WARNING for sexual abuse]

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Or you need to re-examine your definition of slut-shaming.

It would be, if I had a tumblr. (Actually, I might. I don't remember my log in, though....maybe I could do that Recover Password thing they do...)

EDIT: Lol, I posted this in the wrong place. Silly Google HTML based webpage! shakes finger at internet

On topic: Slut shaming is the very basic practice of making someone else feel bad, ashamed, dirty, or otherwise "not a good person" for having a sex drive. Having someone crow around about not sleeping with people until they are IN LURVE, UNLIKE ALL THOSE OTHER PEOPLE, is slut shaming.

Maybe you're not one of those assholes. Who knows? Crazier things have happened, no?

Edited 2014-06-21 02:43 (UTC)

You are all over the place in a way that makes no sense. How is the label pansexual 'slut shaming'? You intimate with your chain of thought that it is but that doesn't make any sense. This entire conversation is a bad showing for you and you should really just stop.

I didn't say pansexual was slut-shaming. Where did I say that? I was talking about demisexual.

Where in the world did I put the words "pansexual" and "slut shaming" in the same sentence?

If anything, perhaps you need to stop and read.

Seriously. Point it out to me. Where did I say pansexual was slut shaming? Can you find where I said those words????

I think it's fair enough to have a separate category for those who ARE attracted to all genders and all spectrums OF genders.

I just wish we could have that label at a price that doesn't involve slut shaming others.

'a separate category' - meaning "pansexuality" (instead of simply bisexuality)

then you chase it with 'that label' gramatically meaning pansexuality since that's the label being discussed 'without slut shaming'

Seriously, are you ESL or dyslexic or something? Because you don't seem to be understanding what you're actually grammatically implying.

I am many, many things - some of which are at the moment: Tired, sweaty, hungry, and wondering what in the world I will make for dinner tonight.

I am, however, getting the feeling that this is a conversation that neither of us will see anything but further agitation. I'm sure this topic will come up again. Until then, I have to make myself some food and then shower. Maybe I'll feel more up to this afterwards.

In any case, let me reiterate - I feel that there are some assholes in the demi/pan/whatever community who slut shame. Then again, I feel there are assholes EVERYWHERE who slut shame.

Demi's and alternate sexualities just happen to be the topic of discussion here.

If you want to think I feel they aren't human, go right ahead. I can't change your mind, and honestly, I'm too tired to 101 someone on that sort of thing right now anyways.

You called me inhuman and then went 'gosh but I'm hungry so lol my bad' and have a million excuses why you shouldn't be accountable for the wrong or hurtful shit you're saying and now you're trying to act like I'm the one in the wrong here. Own (and understand) your words and don't make tangents that you aren't willing to defend.

Okay, honey. Have it. If it helps you to feel like I think you're not human, it's all yours.

(I did, btw, own up to the grammatical error that associated alternate sexualities with not being human. That was a mistake - one I made with sloppy writing.)

But seriously - have fun with your feelings. Whatever gets you through the day, babe.

Seriously?

You are hurtful as a result of your self-described 'sloppiness' and when called on it, your response is textbook condescension?

I'm glad you showed what kind of person you are early on.

Yeeeep. You said "you said this" I said "I did not" you pointed out that YES, I did actually say that.

And then I said "Wow. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to say that. This is what I meant."

I'm so terrible. What with admitting that I said the wrong thing and all that.

Gosh, just so terrible.

You're making it all about you at my expense, so clearly you're not very remorseful.

You are the one talking about me, about the things I am saying, how I'm saying it, what I've said.

I'm just following conversational cues. If you want to talk about the fact that how I spoke hurt you - I'm okay with that. Really, I am.

I get how being mischaracterized by that - by sloppy writing, even - can hurt. A LOT. So if you want to talk about that - you can talk about that. I'm not going to jump on you for being angry (hell, I'm a HYYUGE fan of social change through anger and whatnot.)

It's just that - if I say "I didn't mean it that way", you either have to accept that...or don't. And you don't accept. Or haven't, at least. So after I admit what I did wrong, there's nothing else for me to do.

Except, I guess, get angry back.

...which didn't really solve anything, did it?

I'm condescending because when people apologize, and say "I said the wrong thing", what normally happens is a discussion, not further reaming.

shrug Oh well.

You should google the term 'fauxpology' and understand what you did (and are still doing).

(Check that - the last part of "If you want to think I don't feel they aren't human" - that's making an assumption that you are also the other anon I'm currently in discussion with. You may not be.

Apologies if you aren't that anon.

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