[ SECRET POST #2737 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2737 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Your berserk buttons

[darkmanifest]

A lot of energy, sometimes. I personally think being courteous to those who are courteous to you is always worth that energy, but it bugs me when people underestimate the cost when you are having the most fucked up day and somebody asks a question they don't actually want to hear an honest response to, like "Just lost a major source of income I couldn't spare and I'm pretty sure I have an ulcer, and how are you?" It's not fair to dump that on strangers just trying to be polite, so you smile and fake pleasantries, but yeah, it's hard.

Re: Your berserk buttons

[(Anonymous)]

it bugs me when people underestimate the cost when you are having the most fucked up day and somebody asks a question they don't actually want to hear an honest response to, like "Just lost a major source of income I couldn't spare and I'm pretty sure I have an ulcer, and how are you?"

My mom did that once to a telemarketer. (She'd had some major surgery days before a hurricane did significant damage to her house)

It was wrong but oddly hilarious.

Re: Your berserk buttons

[darkmanifest]

Haha, my mom does it to everyone, not to put them off, but because she's a talker who considers it an opening for discussion. People who know her learn not to ask if they really don't want a conversation.

Re: Your berserk buttons

[toku_mei]

Sure, I get that some people have shit going on, and I know it's unfair of me to make assumptions, but you're still being shitty to someone no matter what the reason. The scenario I was imagining was someone being kind and courteous to someone, and that person not have the decency to return courtesy or even being actively rude. I get that sometimes people have rough days, and it can be harder. But I don't have a lot of sympathy for pushing your bad energy on people who don't deserve it, and darkening someone else's day, even if just for a few seconds. And I don't honestly think most people who are rude to, say, customer service workers, have just lost their jobs, their cat died, they are deathly ill, etc. Some people just don't feel the need to be polite and kind to others, not even for thirty seconds out of their day, and that's my pet peeve.

Re: Your berserk buttons

[darkmanifest]

I totally agree, your bad luck is not someone else's problem, be nice to those who are nice to you, even if it costs you - I was just protesting the idea that is doesn't have a cost. But I don't condone people who think so much of themselves that they don't feel it's ever worth the energy to treat strangers decently. They take kindness for granted, and then get pissed off when they run into someone just as nasty as they are.

Re: Your berserk buttons

[(Anonymous)]

I get that sometimes people have rough days, and it can be harder.

lmao no, you don't "get" it.

Yes, bad energy sucks. But no one is "pushing" it on anyone else. You are choosing to take offense to it and let it darken your day. You cannot control people's behavior anymore than they can control you being annoyed by a rude verbal exchange.

And you know, it could be a lot worse. They could tell you to fuck off. They could give you way too much information of the non-positive kind. They could choose to not respond at all. When they gruff "fine" at you, it's probably best to cut your losses and hope the next customer isn't such a grump.

By the way, there is a difference between being polite and being kind.

The thing you are seeking is politeness.

The thing you are lacking is kindness.

Re: Your berserk buttons

[toku_mei]

Lol so, I shouldn't get annoyed by jerks because "it could be worse"? Especially considering you don't know my personal experiences, that's kind of funny. Heaven forbid I have a pet peeve, but it's good you're fighting the good fight for people who are assholes everywhere. Because apparently me being frustrated with the concept of people a) taking their anger and frustrations out on other people or b) just not treating others as human beings and returning courtesy that is offered to them is just too offensive to you.

And look at you, so deep. lol Love those last two lines.