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Re: Things you plan on doing when/if you have kids

[(Anonymous)]

-Teach empathy. Encourage them to relate to others, and think about what others are feeling.
-Encourage them to ask questions. I won't be afraid to say I don't know the answer to something, but research it with them.
-I won't emphasize their genders in a stereotypical way. I'll try to treat both my sons and daughters the same, and avoid language that could subconsciously make them feel a certain way ("pretty girl!" vs "tough guy!"). I will give them the same options and not judge either way - if my daughter plays with trucks, cool. If she plays with dolls, cool.
-I will never spank my child or strike them in anger. Punishments will be contributing positively to the household - chores, namely - and discussions about what went wrong, why, and finally apologies.
-I really want to raise my child bilingually. I wasn't raised bilingually myself, though I speak another language now, but I will try to expose my child to other languages while s/he is young. Also, money/resources willing, have them learn an instrument like piano.
-Encourage them to play outside and get dirty.
-Avoid junk foods. I'll do my best to cook as often as possible and avoid fast food as much as possible.
-Money willing, go on vacation once a year, or at least travel somewhere new.

Re: Things you plan on doing when/if you have kids

[jaybie_jarrett]

- I agree on that. I'm going to tell them about my childhood experience and how I was bullied all the time at some point and tell them that it caused some serious psychological issues even years after. I am going to tell them about how for the bully it seems like nothing but for the victim, they carry it with them for years. I want to make sure my children(and my sisters' children) are made aware what bullying can do to people.
-That definitely. I am going to encourage them to question things and avoid saying "because I said so" if I can.
- I can definitely get that. I want my children to know they can be whatever they want to be regardless of gender.
-I can get that. I'd be careful about making chores punishments because I don't want them to associate doing stuff around the house with punishment though. That's my only hang up there.
-That sounds cool. I am terrible with languages so *shrug* but I would support them learning another language.
-When it comes to junk food...I'll try to have healthy food but I don't want to go overboard in restricting sweet foods/junk foods too much. Because I live in a house where people are kind of obsessed with "losing weight and looking thin. They also pressure me that my eating is out of control - I am 5 ft 6 and they tell me I should be 125-130 but to me that feels unhealthy. I feel like my body is mostly fine they way it is, and assuming I'm supposed to be a certain weight because that's what my sister looks like bothers me. But yeah I am aware that being too obsessed with 'looking thin" can be just as bad as doing nothing. I would have small amounts of sweet things available with a lot of fruits and nuts and healthy stuff Restrict the fun stuff so much they'll end up craving it and gorging on it when its around.

But this is just my opinions.