[ SECRET POST #2750 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2750 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

12. http://imgur.com/n2S5Tiu.png

[(Anonymous)]

I think I've had something similar happen to me OP, and I want you to know, I know exactly what you mean and that feeling of vindication can feel relatively liberating. Though personally I'd keep the public reveling in it to a minimum.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

It's a fantastic feeling knowing how right I was to let that friendship go. I've made sure to keep it on the down low though. I haven't mentioned it on blogs or LJ or Twitter or anywhere else, just here. I don't want to start up a shit storm of drama.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. I wouldn't revel in public, but I'd lol about it a lot in private. People who are bad friends are their own worst enemy, and there's no better revenge than seeing them fuck up their own lives over and over again. *clinks champagne glasses*

OP

[(Anonymous)]

*clinks*

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Been there, seen that, reveled.

Let's all clink champagne glasses to karma biting asses!

[iceyred]

Schadenfreude is usually frowned upon by the general public, who are often self-righteous to understand the why behind the feeling.

Be happy you ditched that person, OP. You don't need that negativity in your life.

[(Anonymous)]

Here's when you approach the ex-ass-kisser, and make mention of the fact that you went through the same thing, and ask if he needs to talk. Be the bigger person until you've created a harem of ex-friends of that person, and use your army to destroy him/her.

[(Anonymous)]

Why? She's not worth that kind of effort especially when she's so conveniently self-imploding.

Living well is the best possible revenge. Live well, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes OP, live well with your harem of ex-friend's friends.



I thought the use of harem made it obvious I was joking but I guess not.

[(Anonymous)]

Harems are taken very seriously here.

[iceyred]

Why not just create the harem, have an orgy, don't invite the toxic asshole, but make sure they know what they're missing out on? They still get the misery of being a friendless asshole, but you get an orgy out of it!

OP

[(Anonymous)]

The funny thing is, that when a different fandom friendship collapsed (for different reasons) my ex-friend decided she was going to befriend all of the people who we both had issues with, in some sort of weird revenge plot. I think she was trying to create a harem of ex-acquaintances, but it only made her look like a two-faced bitch. This particular ex-friend that I refer to in the secret isn't worth that kind of effort.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen that happening more than once.
After a while, people see through it. At least people who get burnt in their own time.

[(Anonymous)]

Nah. It sounds like a nifty idea on paper, but in real life when you've escaped a den of toxic people, it's better not to go back in if you can help it. And why would anyone want to cultivate the acquaintance or even fake-friendship of an asskisser? OP's already doing it right by sitting back, enjoying the popcorn-worthy show and not having to deal with any of those assholes.

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, I'd recommend staying far away from anyone you knew then and anyone who's still friends with any of them.

And really, the only way to be the bigger person is to let it go completely. Absolutely no revenge planning like in a Hollywood movie: that would be losing, not winning.

The only way to win such a bad situation is to walk away, not hang around any of these people who were involved in any way, even simply by association. Trust me on this...

[kallanda_lee]

It sounds like you're both better off not having this person n your life. Friendship needs to come from both ends, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

I've been in a similar boat, OP, and I have to say YESS!!!!! With evil cackles of glee and everything.

[(Anonymous)]

Whenever I'm in a friendship where I feel I care more or I'm putting more effort into it than the other person I just back off for a while. And if they care they'll make the effort to come to me and if not the friendship can just dissolve quietly because it obviously wasn't much of one.

[(Anonymous)]

I totally feel you on the first half of your secret, anon. And I would feel 100% vindicated too if I heard about the ex-friend in question falling out with other people over the same kind of thing we did.

[(Anonymous)]

I actually thought I made this secret on my sleep, haha!
It's the best feeling in the world, anon, I'm so glad you got to feel it <3

[(Anonymous)]

I understand this from a RL perspective as well OP. I have had a few poisonous friendships that ended in flames. Initially, after the relationships ending, I felt very hurt and alone (and blamed myself fully) because other people/friends still spoke highly of the other person. But, after time went by, other people starting realizing that the other person wasn't crapping roses.