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⌈ Secret Post #2758 ⌋

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[Stormlight Archive]

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[Legend of Galactic Heroes]

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[OFF]

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[Robin Hood]

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[Pretty Little Liars]

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[Orange is the New Black]

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[2NE1's Park Bom]

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[Constantine]

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[Miss Fisher's Mysteries]

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[Firefly]

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[Batman]

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[The Witches. Aliens. Coraline. It.]

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[Ocean's 11]

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"i already knew that" tends to be appropriate more often than not

It may be accurate, but I'd say it's far from appropriate.

This. Because chances are that the person coming out might be nervous or scared or worried about whether or not their announcement will radically alter their relationship to the person they're telling, and just deflating their anxiety with an insensitive (at best) response just seems... unkind.

It seems rather snarky, and I don't think that's what i'd like to hear.

Yeah...I think it maybe works if it's your parent (AND they're also being supportive), but other than that, I wouldn't say it.

NAYRT
When one of my friends came out to his grandmother, her response was somewhat along the lines of, "Oh, sweetie, why do you think I keep trying to get you to help me redecorate the parlor?"

Which was kind of cute coming from someone's 80-year-old Lutheran grandma, but yeah, probably not the best example for everyday conversation.

Really? I got a "I kinda figured" when I told my mom and somehow it wasn't very pleasant. I had no idea how to respond to that.

Yeah, I got a very similar response when I came out and it kind of leveled me. Acceptance was not a given from my folks, so I spent a good six months psyching myself up to tell them. A good friend went home the same weekend to see her parents so I'd have a place to go if I needed it. And to have them be - not dismissive, but that's how it felt in the moment - it just left me holding a big bag full of emotion and adrenaline with no direction to aim it.

I know what you mean. Though honestly, I doubt I would have been perfectly happy with any response with the way I kept worrying about it. It was something I needed to just get over with so I would stop imagining the conversation in my head over and over.

Not appropriate to say at all.

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