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I'm going to go against the whole "your friends are craaaaazy!" tide here because while their reaction seems a little extreme, is it based on this one thing your ex did, or is it based upon knowing your past histories together and other action/behavior they're familiar with?

I wouldn't discount his remark offhand, but it seems a little odd. You don't give us much context, but I'd accept your read on the situation if:

* your ex wasn't/isn't the jealous, sabotaging type
* the break up was amicable
* you've maintained a healthy, drama-free relationship with your ex for at least a year
* during that time you've been talking/seeing one another regularly *as friends* without major issues
* that you regularly speak about the other people you've both been dating (because you've both demonstrably moved on, yes?) after your break up without major issues or drama

It's been my experience that when it comes down to a person in a relationship with someone and a significant percentage of their friends thinking the partner's a jerk... the friends are more objective because they're not influenced by their romantic feels. Food for thought.

Why should it be at least a year?

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This is what I'm wondering, my ex and I stayed friends from the moment we'd called it off because it was a mutual, amicable breakup.

Not all breakups are horrible things, there are plenty of times where people just realize it's not working and end it without any drama.

Well sure, but the only way you know that you pulled this off is time. Not all amicable break-ups remain amicable, and it's not a huge feat to stay amicable and drama-free for say, a couple weeks. A year, though? After people have had time to stew and see other people and get used to being apart? Yeah, that's more of a test.

Yep, I agree with this. I broke up with someone and we decided to stay friends. Things were fine for a few months. And then my ex started to hit on me while dating someone else. Apparently his new girlfriend wasn't satisfying him in some way that I had. That went on for a few weeks and ended with us in a screaming match cutting all communication with each other.

To give people time to settle into not being together, amicably. A lot of break-ups start off with the intention of being amicable, but if you've only been broken up a couple months and rarely communicate... well, that's not really proof that you can get on together without trouble.

Yeah, while my initial reaction was "wtf", I realized that was because I was operating on the assumption that the ex wasn't a dick and there weren't very important reasons why they split. A friendly ex would mean nothing by it, sure - an asshole ex would be attempting some bullshit, like he was telling dudes in his building really private things about OP to be spiteful and is trying to set OP up for a nasty dating experience.

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