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Hi FS! So last summer I posted this thread (http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/818909.html?thread=659851229#cmt659851229) about noticing a cute girl in a store with a rainbow wristband and debating over whether I should talk to her. Most people seemed to say go for it, so I decided why not, but I never saw her again.

Fast forward to today, 6-7 months later, I'm at a different place and see a different girl, wearing a rainbow necklace. I didn't say anything to her, both because I was preoccupied, and because I didn't know what to say. But she was at the computer next to the lady helping me, and I noticed she kept giving me these looks/smiles while I was being waited on (I was there quite awhile).

I'm wanting to go back and talk to her but I don't know how to do it without making an idiot of myself. I have a rainbow bracelet myself now so I'm wondering if I should just wear it and not say anything, and see if she notices/says anything to me?

I know this probably sounds lame, but in this insanely small town, she's only the second possible lesbian I've ever seen in person, and I want lesbian friends(/possible dates) and have no idea how to meet them. (No gay bars, no LGBT clubs of any sort, and no one on online dating sites within 5-6 hours of here...I know I probably need to move to a bigger town but that's not an option at the moment.) And she was really cute and with the looks she kept giving me I got the feeling that maybe she was interested.

But I don't know how to subtly hint about it without coming out and saying "hey, are you into girls?" especially if it turns out I was misinterpreting her looks and she's straight but just likes rainbows or something.

Any advice?

Get a picture of Scarlett Johansson, walk up to her and be like, "Man, she sure is hot. I'd totally hit that. Wouldn't you?" Though, maybe change Scarlett Johansson to a celebrity that looks like the girl.

Possibly use a puppy to break the ice.

You'd hit that puppy?

/someone had to.

Just what about Scarlett Johansson is not girl-looking?

I would wear my rainbow bracelet, then walk up casually and hold up my wrist and say, "Hey, nice," nodding to hers. Then just see what happens. If she's a friendly person you'll want to get to know her whether she's gay or not. I don't think that should have to be immediately established.

I like this idea.

Best suggestion so far.

Compliment her necklace, and ask her if there's any particular reason for choosing a rainbow, or maybe where she got it from. It's not exactly subtle, but it should be pretty straightforward from there.

I can sympathise on the lack of LGBT outlets, so fingers crossed!

Just go up to them an ask "Hey are you a dyke?" That should go over well.

Even if she's not into girls, you might make a friend!

This is JUST A THEORY NOT TESTED IN PRACTICE but maybe just go and start talking to her about whatever, and then play it by ear and see where things are going and broach the question when the moment comes up

I mean, you don't have to know whether or not she's gay to have a friendly conversation

You should just talk to her. If she's interested in hanging out with you, you can flirt and find out.

ask if she reads autostraddle

Walk up to her and ask "are you a lesbian?"

Or you could wear that bracelet, walk up to her and say "Heeeeey same wristband/collar!" and then strike a conversation with her. I mean, getting to know each other should be the first step and then see how it goes.

To be honest, I don't know if there's any tactful way to flat-out ask if someone is gay any more than it is to ask them if they were straight or bi or whatever.

Next time she comes in wearing that necklace, you could simply compliment the piece. "I like your necklace" or "Hey, cool necklace." If she clarifies what it means, you can go from there. If she just says "thanks" you could ask where she got it from, 'cause you have a bracelet and were thinking about getting a necklace too. Maybe something like that. It's also possible to ask, "Do you support gay rights?" and get a certain response from it. "No, I just like rainbows" or "Yeah, totally" followed by something more obvious about her orientation/preference. But it could also be followed by a "my brother's gay and I'm wearing this to honor him" or "yeah, my girlfriend/partner and I have matching bracelets" so... just be prepared.

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