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⌈ Secret Post #2793 ⌋

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Comments

Re: *sobs*

[kallanda_lee]

I'm not even sure about half the things you want to say, but sweetheart, you sound upset and I think you need to take a step back from this if it's making you feel this way.

What the other RP'er said? That was a compliment - to you, not to anyone else. No one else takes credit for it.

But it seems putting yourself out there like that is making you very stressed.

On the other note: you are not your parents. You do not owe it to them to be a clone copy of them. It's probably a good idea to finish school - but take your time. If you feel you're not ready for the "real world", do not force yourself (though do know that if you're talking highschool, getting out might in fact be an improvement).

You are not useless. Do what makes you happy - that is the way that you will be able to grow.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I didn't mean to imply that the RP was stressing me out, I'm sorry. It was a completely separate thing, and i mentioned it because it was part of the jumble in my brain (cause before this school thing hit, it was what was on my mind and what I was planning to post about here, as good news). And when it comes to my parents, let's just say they're putting a lot of pressure on me to be...not as good as they are, but a lot better than I am.

Re: *sobs*

[kallanda_lee]

Right, but that might be one of your problems and sources of stress. Doesn't mean they're bad people, just that they don't understand what impact they're having because they're very different people than you.

Sounds like they are part of your source of distress.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

My parents are very much part of my stress in life, yes, but I have little choice but to either rely on them a while longer, or live on the street, which wouldn't be the end of the world if not for the fact that I'm on mutiple medications that keep me sane and I need to afford them.

Re: *sobs*

[kallanda_lee]

Are there places you can get temporary relief from them - like staying with another relative or a friend;, at least for a few days?

And can they be reasoned with, or not at all?

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I live at school, which they pay for, and I'm grateful that they've allowed that. If that weren't the case, there would be nowhere I could go. Their home is in the middle of nowhere and I'm not allowed to leave it without their approval. They cannot be reasoned with, not at all. I'm just trying to talk to them less. It's all I can do.

Re: *sobs*

[kallanda_lee]

Ah, sorry to hear that anon. Seems like you're in a tough situation. Sounds to me like they are abusing the fact they have financial leverage over you, which sucks. That being said, IF you can, it's not a bad idea to try and get a degree, because it will get them partially off your case and give you a bit more freedom.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I see no other choice, really. I'm so much at the end of my rope that I've actually started hoping for them to die. Then I can live off their money without their pressure or abuse. Is that...does that make me unsympathetic? I think the only way I can ever be happy is if something happens to them...

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

You probably don't really want your parents to die. Speaking from experience, it's a lot more painful and terrifying than being unsure about what you're going to do with your life.

Re: *sobs*

[kallanda_lee]

Hey, sorry for the late reply but I fell asleep on the couch as it was late here.

Look, I'm not sure if you mean that, or if you're just upset - but in any case, it's not something you can count on. Presuming you're in college, your parents are likely not of the age where they will drop dead and die. Waiting for an inheritance, as appealing as it sounds, is not a great strategy.

The best way for you to be happy is to become independent from them and find a way to have at least a limited income (limited incomes cn be compensated with roommates and the like).


Try to devise a plan, anon. Try to find out what you could do, part-time if full time stresses you, that could give you the basic means for survival.

I'd also re-check qualifying for disability. Don't know how it is where you live, but here you have "percentages" of being incapacitated for work, and I had a friend who was actually on 33 percent.Which is not something you might be able o live on, but every bit counts, right?

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

You're... not allowed to leave their home?

Not trying to be a snarky shit here, but is this a cultural thing, or do you just live in a country where parents are allowed to do that?

If no to both, or yes to the first and no to the second, you're allowed to leave any time you want. But that does mean you'll need to find a way to support yourself.

If yes to both or the second... uh... nevermind and sorry.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

I can't just go stay with someone else without their okay...isn't that universal? They don't just ignore me, they'd know I wasn't there and wonder where i was, and they'd never approve of me just shipping out to someone else's house, especially for a few days, without planning it with them first. Especially if the reason was "to get away from them".

It's a moot point anyway because I don't have anyone nearby.

Re: *sobs*

[(Anonymous)]

If you're in your twenties and they're being this controlling, you might want to put your foot down. My parents were really overbearing until I made it clear that I could make my own decisions because I was an adult.