[ SECRET POST #2812 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2812 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

1) That fandom friend from the internet that's invading my real life.
Anytime there's a big event in my town she'll ask to come over and spend time together.
I live in a shared flat with no spare room; usually guests sleep on a cot in the living room. The first time she came over at my place that was what we did. After what she complained that it was "uncomfortable". So next time I was forced to lend her my bed--I loathe the idea of sleeping with anyone else and she knows it. I don't mind sleeping on the living room cot myself, what I do mind is her nosily digging through the stuff in my room to see what books I have and making a mess of everything.
She's also a picky eater and a hypocrite at that; she pretends that she'll eat almost anything but objected to everything I could think of proposing. She had me buy special groceries just for her that she knows I never eat myself so she could still have all her favorite things... then when after they were already bought, she insisted we ate out outside of cooking at my place.
Since then, now when she comes again to my town she usually stays at one of her relatives' house instead of mine and we meet only for the event.

Then. We had something planned this weekend for weeks before. Only last week did she warn me that her relative couldn't have her this time and if I didn't offer to take her in she would not come at all and wouldn't it be so sad after another one of our friends already had bailed out... and she did so on a public chatroom with the peer pressure of our common internet friends waiting for me to be the oh so good friend who'll say "why of course yes!"
I was woken up in the middle of the night by my flatmates and their improvised guests coming back from their part of the big event and claiming the living room for themselves; so I had to choose between crawling back to the bed where she was taking all the space and hogging the covers and snoring like a pig, or staying awake in the kitchen with a book til dawn come.


2) Myself, for frakking letting all that mess happen.

[dreemyweird]

...she probably isn't worth being friends with. IMO.

[(Anonymous)]

That sucks. :( But please do keep in mind that the only reason she successfully does this is because you let her. There's no real "forcing" when it comes to unwanted guests. Just say no, it won't be possible. Don't offer reasons or explanations for her to argue with. Just say "No, it's not possible." "You'll have to make other plans, sorry." Repeat ad nauseum. If she tries to apply public pressure, dig your heels in. "Sorry, can't. I'm sure there'll be other get togethers you can make."

[(Anonymous)]

Agreeing that if you offer reasons and explanations, it just gives people like this a handle.

[(Anonymous)]

arhg, that sucks.

It makes me annoyed just reading this because I have a real life friend who is very similar to this. She is nice enough, but is really lazy and is a user.\ When she comes over to my parent's house she never wants to leave at a decent hour. I made her food for a fandom themed get together and she didn't really appreciate it all that much. I'm hiding the fact that I live in an apartment from her because I just KNOW she'd invite herself over and would never leave!

She even said outright that when I get a car, I should drive her around.