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[ SECRET POST #2827 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2827 ⌋

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I help moderate a chat room. I've had my disagreements, and there are a handful of people who I wouldn't talk to outside the chatroom, but in general it's manageable and there's been very little drama. There are a few rivalries ranging from bickering for fun to not liking each other but still getting along, but in general we all get along in a semi-professional, adult manner.

Except for this one user I literally can't stand. They've done nothing wrong, but they are excessively whiny, overly annoying, one of those people who you'd sooner peg for thirteen rather than their actual age. Thankfully they aren't around as much as everyone else, but when they are around I get very, very tempted to abuse my OP powers to kick them out because literally all that comes out of their mouth (fingers?) is 'whine whine whine family problems shipping shipping LOL SO RANDOM XD shipping shipping did I mention my sexual orientation in the last five minutes did I mention my gender in the last day btw, I know this is going to come as a shock, but my parents are awful.'

Like, I get it. They're insecure. Their parents are abusive. They've got anxiety issues. But no one in the chat has a good life, none of us are really doing all right, and yet they somehow manage to be the only one who constantly wallows in despair and routinely brings down the quality of conversation just by signing on. Even the compulsive liar is less annoying than they are.

For some reason everyone else seems to love them, although admittedly, their biggest fan is the most easily exploitable person I've ever met who manages to have less spine than a jellyfish and for some reason acts surprised when people take advantage of her. I like to think that everyone is only putting up with them and that it's a matter of gritting your teeth and baring it because hey, shallow interaction! combined with not wanting to let one person ruin something you enjoy, but I have this nagging suspicion that people actually like them.

There's not much I can do because I am one of the mods and it would be an abuse of power to wail on them just because they rub me up the wrong way, and on top of that it would be really dumb and unprofessional - not to mention that, even if it is shallow, they are at least seemingly well-liked by everyone else there, including the other OP.

So, to wrap things up, eh, but the quality of chat would drastically improve if they weren't there.

I used to get annoyed with people like this (IRL, mind you). But then I came to the realisation that the person they were screwing over the most with their constant negativity was themselves, and that if they didn't change in the future they were going to continue to be unhappy because they wouldn't be able to recognise opportunities to make their lives better.

This realisation helped me a lot in letting my own negativity towards them go (there's no point wasting emotional energy on something you can't change, after all), and also work towards being less negative in general, partly because I didn't want to end up like the pathologically negative and/or annoying people I'd come across.

So, in summary, since abusing your mod powers is not a good option I would recommend you let your annoyance go and use this person's bad example as motivation to be a better person/mod yourself.

Those types of people really do suck - I've run into a strain or two in my day - but you really are being the bigger, more mature person by not giving into your urges. That's not something that can be said for a lot of fandom, even mods. But people like the one your describing tend to burn their own bridges eventually, when people wise up to the ever constant need for attention and drama - and you might even be surprised to find that a few of the members of your comm already can't stand this person, that's happened to me as well - you just keep taking the high road. It'll work itself out.

You mean the spineless, easily-exploited person who's practically single-handedly kept your BFF/soulmate/life partner from being homeless? Wow, what a sucker. Guess they should have saved their money, huh?

... Well this sounds juicy.

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