[ SECRET POST #2841 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2841 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 039 secrets from Secret Submission Post #406.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'm really wondering how it is that you're not asexual or aromantic if you've never had any of those feelings and can't relate at all to them.

OP here

[(Anonymous)]

I have really low self-esteem. So it's tough for me to picture myself in a relationship or as being loved because I can't imagine anyone loving me back. I want those things -- to have a significant other, to have sex. But I just feel like they're never gonna happen. I might see a guy that I like that I think is nice-looking, but my brain generally shuts down that train of thought because I know, deep down, that it's not gonna go anywhere.

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, OP. I'm similar and even older than you.

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

me too, OP.

me too.

sucks, don't it?

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

So basically you're projecting your poor self-esteem all over these female love interests and that's why you hate them so much? You may want to talk to someone about this, OP.

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP, but I'm pretty much in the same boat as far as issues go, except I don't hate cardboard cut out love interests. I find them annoying and wish their writers would put a little more thought into them. The "clueless loser without a girlfriend gets called to adventure, saves the world or a significant chunk thereof, and wins the affections of a hot pair of boobs" storyline still shows up way too often.

I doubt I'd enjoy a gender flipped variant any more though. It's lazy storytelling either way. Characters who take up the most screen time/spend a lot of time with the main character should get as much development as the protagonist, but so often all they are is ciphers. Comic relief side kicks, brainless moods, and square jawed action heroes are just as annoying. Show us why the protagonist gives a fuck instead of just labeling her "the girlfriend."

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[(Anonymous)]

ditto.

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[(Anonymous)]

Same here... it really sucks, esp. when most of my friends are in relationships and everyone's wondering when I'm going to find somebody and it's just... sorry guys but I don't think that's gonna happen. :(

[(Anonymous)]

just because they've never had sex or been in a relationship doesn't mean they're not sexually attracted to other people.

[diet_poison]

"crush" implies attraction, and "no crush" implies no attraction

not saying OP is wrong, but I was wondering the same thing as ayrt and it's a valid question

OP

[(Anonymous)]

There are guys I look at and definitely think are attractive. But I consider crush to be a bit more -- daydreaming about being with them I guess. I never let myself get that far because I feel it's pointless.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Are you sure it's not just aesthetic attraction? Honest question. I'm a lesbian. I can still tell you a guy is pleasing to the eyes. In the "I would like to draw them" sense, if you will.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Oh it's absolutely not just an aesthetic attraction. I would fuck most any dude I see on the street's brain out given half the chance. But my brain tells me it's not gonna happen so why bother?

Just realized the first part might have been TMI but…yeah

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, it's Fandom Secrets. TMI is kind of the name of the game around here sometimes.

Re: OP

[diet_poison]

That makes sense.

I hope thinks look up for you soon - I don't think it's as hopeless as you seem to think it is :)

[sarillia]

Crush has a romantic element to it that sexual attraction in general doesn't for me. I went a long time denying that I had had any crushes because I only got them on girls and I was repressing them but during that time I was still attracted to a lot of people.

[ketita]

eh, I don't get crushes either. It's because I look at guys as marriage potential, not random bedmates, so I see no point in fantasizing about somebody who I would clearly never want to marry. Also I have a low libido. Not everyone crushes.

[diet_poison]

That's fair.

I actually kinda see guys like you, or at least, potential boyfriends-then-later-husbands, I practice chastity, and I have zero interest in one-night stands or flings. But I still crush. I think people can crush in different ways, too.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, that's what I came here to say too.

[(Anonymous)]

And even then! I'm asexual, and I still get why people have sex. I just don't really participate.