[ SECRET POST #2868 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2868 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Although I keep writing despite lack of comments AND kudos, I tend to get so upset about it, and I don't understand why I bother. Like I even ask for constructive criticism and I don't get it. And to the asshole talking about beta-readers, I've been unsuccessful finding one that actually commits to it.

It's really triggering hearing about how needy and manipulative I can be for wanting some type of validation for whatever hardwork I do, whether it's art, fic, edits, etc. It's almost down right ableist if the writing has self-esteem issues already. THAT what makes me REALLY give up creating.

So do what you want OP. Though if someone is truly not reading anything until the fic is completed, I suppose I understand.

[(Anonymous)]

Literally everyone in the world has self-esteem issues and wants validation for their hard work. It is not ableist to call you on it when you do something douchey in the pursuit of validation, even if you have a doctor's note saying "anon has poor self-esteem, please review, flames will be used to toast marshmallows xoxoxo."

[(Anonymous)]

How the fuck is being upset and resentful due the lack of validation douchey? But going behind someone's back about how shitty someone's fic is okay? Fuck you, and fuck you with all of that everyone has self-esteem issues bullshit.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Healthy validation (as in the kind that helps your mental well-being) doesn't rely on strangers on the internet clicking kudos buttons. Healthy validation comes from you. So while not douchey, seeking this kind of external validation doesn't help your self esteem. It basically reinforces the idea that other people dictate your value, when in fact YOU do.

As someone with a lifelong cornucopia of esteem and anxiety problems, please believe me, if you are getting this upset about not getting comments on fic then you need to talk to someone about the core roots of your feelings. Because if you try to sublimate it or temporarily solve it with things like popular fanfics online then you're on incredibly shaky ground.

[(Anonymous)]

I understand it's unhealthy and I've been see therapists off and on for 13 years about this. But these comments villifying the author or anyone who wants to do what she does was upsetting me, so...

[(Anonymous)]

Lmao what even is all this about going behind someone's back about how shitty their fic is? Where did that come from? How do you get that from my comment?