[ SECRET POST #2925 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2925 ⌋

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Comments

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen a lot of guys say "So, what? Are guys not allowed to be unattracted to fat girls?" as an excuse to express disgust and disappointment at them, too. I don't think this is any different or morally superior.

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[siofrabunnies]

Okay, but I'm not seeing disgust on her face, so I don't think that applies here. I'm reading her face as expressing exaggerated disappointment at the fact that he's shorter than her, which I think is valid. Those guys are assholes because they're using their tastes as excuses to be rude. This girl, from what little I can see, is not. She's just expressing a taste.

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[(Anonymous)]

"MY FACE WHEN I FIND OUT A GIRL I'M CRUSHING ON WEIGHS MORE THAN ME DDDDDDDDDD:"

You really don't see it?

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[siofrabunnies]

This hypothetical man is not obligated to be attracted to fat women. If he doesn't like heavy girls, that's no one's business. How he treats them is what I judge on. It's perfectly okay to say, "I had a crush on someone, then found out they have a feature I don't find attractive, and now the crush is gone."

Now, I'll admit that I might be reading this girl's face wrong. The glasses make her eyes hard to see. But all I see is disappointment, which I think is okay.

For clarity's sake, what do you want me to see?

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[(Anonymous)]

Anon put it well.

http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/1142341.html?thread=804594245#cmt804594245

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[siofrabunnies]

Eh, I don't really see it as broadcasting that. I mean, this girl is allowed to tell people her emotions and opinions. It's not like she's shouting "ew, short guys!" or even "I hate short guys." She's saying "I don't like when the guy I liked has something I don't like". It's not like she can force herself to become attracted to short guys, or make him taller, so now she has to lose a crush, which is disappointing.

I mean, it's teenagerish, but I don't think she's doing anything morally wrong.

Would it be different if she found out he smoked? I find smoking just gross, and don't get it at all, and any attraction I had to someone goes away completely if I find out they're a smoker. I get disappointed when that happens, because I lose that crush, which sucks. I'm not rude about it, and the only thing I ask of them is to not smoke around me. But I think it's okay to say, completely anonymously, "MFW I find out the guy I liked smokes." Is that okay?

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[siofrabunnies]

I think I'm way over-invested in this, ha. I don't actually care, but I guess I just feel like debating.

Re: why is body shaming of some groups okay but not others

[diet_poison]

she's specifically talking about a guy in the context of dating him, though. she's not expressing disgust and disappointment at short guys, period.