[ SECRET POST #2934 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2934 ⌋

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Notes:

Sorry about that, working late again.

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Comments

[feotakahari]

Yeah, this reminds me way too much of a BDSM writer I ran into once who was only into submissive black women.

[(Anonymous)]

wait hold up. how the fuck is that remotely comparable to being into more submissive, femme men

[feotakahari]

It's regional to some degree, but ukes can actually be a pretty nasty stereotype. It makes coming out a lot harder when you think being gay means you have to be effeminate, to say nothing of folks who meet your boyfriend and ask which of you is the "girl." (Granted, OP isn't going out there and encouraging the uke stereotype, but the writer I just mentioned was't going out there and encouraging the mammy stereotype. It's just kind of "really?")

[(Anonymous)]

Pretty sure the secret implies the OP is female, making the "ukes" in this case straight males.

[kallanda_lee]

Fair enough - but the thing is that some gay/bi and even straight men ARE effeminate. And some of them are pretty much exclusively bottoms and/or sexually submissive. And there's nothing wrong with that. There's also nothing wrong with liking that.

Maybe the "uke" stereotype is one step too far, but honestly - I've more often seen the opposite, among both straight women and gay men - "oh noes, not me, I don't like that whole effeminate thing. I only date real men!"

Like I see how it's a problem if it reaches fetishistic forms - but in the end you like what you like, and honestly without knowing more about the OP we can't really know how she deals with it.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

I guess it could be fetishistic, but I don't really see how? I mean, everyone has a list of things they want in a partner, even if they don't say it, they want someone who is skinny or who has features like that or who likes this sport and has sex that way. I've had vanilla sex with more masculine guys and it's a too bland for me... I couldn't sustain a relationship. I know what I like. And isn't sexual compatibility important? I'm a domme and into BDSM and I have no interest in dating vanilla guys or dominant guys.


Honestly I'm surprised so many people are weirded out by this.

I mean, would anyone be surprised if a guy said "I'm only into feminine women who are sexually submissive and enjoy these sex acts". Because I bet that's pretty common.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

I like rape roleplay and everything, but if a guy said that he would ONLY date women who were into rape fantasy then I would be skeeved out

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

da Yeah, that kinda comes across as though they're more interested in their partner as a prop for their fantasies than they are in their partner as a person.

[(Anonymous)]

OP mentioned pegging and straight guys. That's a pretty big clue that OP is female.

[(Anonymous)]

They're both about having a very specific type of person you date, because that's what gets you off? That seems... REALLY comparable to me. Like, not just comparable, basically the same thing.