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⌈ Secret Post #2939 ⌋

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Re: Advice in regards to bullying

[(Anonymous)]

Addressing the weight issue is a tough one. First of all, I'd urge your sister not to bring it up as if your niece doesn't realize she's fat. Believe me, she knows. Unless she's particularly sheltered or ignorant, she also knows about diet and exercise and avoiding junk food because I have yet to meet a single overweight person who doesn't know about these things, myself included.

But... rapid unexplained weight gain is a health issue. People generally don't just pack on 50 lbs. for no reason, and finding out that reason is key whether it's a hormonal issue or a psychological reaction to trauma or what.

I think I'd ask the niece what she wants to do about it. Stress that you love her and she's a worthy person no matter what her weight is, but if she'd like some help with that, the whole family will get behind her. EVERYONE diets and exercises, not just her. She's already an outcast at school, so making her an outcast at home who needs "special food" or is restricted from sweets the rest of the family is free to indulge in is extremely demoralizing and will only make the problem worse. I'd take up the issue with the school and ask what their policy on bullying is and how they enforce it.

I'd also explain that teenagers can be horrible little shits lacking in empathy, and that empathy is something most people learn... but not all. It's not about her, it's about them. Your niece needs your sympathy and compassion more than she needs your judgment, even if seems like common sense ("just lose some weight and people will stop picking on you!") to you. I remember what it was like to be her age, when everyone felt so alien and hard to understand. Be there for her, she'll need it.

Re: Advice in regards to bullying

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Yeah, I came to say that the drastic weight gain is a sign that something is going on. I wouldn't be surprised if she was getting picked on even when she was thinner, and the bullying contributed to her putting on so much weight so rapidly. Poor kid.