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⌈ Secret Post #2949 ⌋

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[Persona 4]

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[Howl's Moving Castle]

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[True Detective]

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[Homestuck]

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[Jane the Virgin]

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(Transformers Armada)

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[Hannibal - Richard Armitage/Lee Pace]

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15. [ SPOILERS for Into the Woods ]

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16. [ SPOILERS for Dragon Age ]

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I know how you feel, I'm always like that in friendships too. What I usually do is just start a conversation with a 'How was/is your day?' or just talk about something you did recently, especially if it's an interest you both share ('Just rewatched that movie we're both into ...'). Maybe they've run out of things to say and are hoping you'll come up with something. Or if they really are ditching you, you'd know for sure by whether or not they reply, right?

Aw, it's nice to know I'm not the only weird one :D

This is true. I suppose I should try talking to her. It is also that we used to only talk on one specific blogging platform, and though we do interact e.g. on tumblr and I also have her e-mail, I'm not terribly sure how much she'd be interested in other conversation formats. She doesn't strike me as someone who's likely to enjoy writing lengthy letters (which is something my other friend does). I thought about offering her to skype, but what if it'll be just, like... half an hour of awkward silence?..

And the "how do you do" bit of the conversation doesn't get terribly lengthy as of late. Hers is a pretty stable and uneventful life, so she's just like, 'yeah, it's all fine', and after that I need to sustain the conversation all by myself.

I'm actually wondering if she hasn't got some sort of relationship issue here. She complained to me before that she gets close with people sometimes, but after a year or so they tend to drift away from her. It's been about a year into our friendship, too. Perhaps she loses interest in people over time :(

Aww man, I know exactly what the whole awkward silence in between forced conversation is like. If she doesn't like lengthy letters though, Tumblr sounds like a pretty good place to just exchange short, comfortable asks.

If that's the case, I think that if you try to talk to her and she still seems fine with your relationship, I think you shouldn't worry about it too much. Nothing wrong with a friend you only talk to once a week or something, and it'll become the norm. Maybe after a year or so she runs out of things to say which is why she feels like people are drifting away from her? So just talking occasionally but still being good friends would probably work for her. I myself have a friend who I only talk to briefly once a month but it's still one of my closest relationships, and we have fun whenever we hang out.

Thank you. This is reassuring. I do tend to get paranoid over these things. I guess I will try sending her asks every once in a while, and I'll keep her informed about the most important events that happen to me. Maybe that'll do the trick.

I'm also pretty chill with being very fond of people to whom I don't talk a whole lot (one of the best people I've ever known is a guy to whom I haven't spoken in over two years now), but it does worry me that she might not feel the same way and that she might think I'm being unfriendly.

Ah, well. We shall see. It'll all resolve itself somehow in the end.

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