[ SECRET POST #2949 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2949 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Persona 4]


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[Howl's Moving Castle]


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[True Detective]


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[Homestuck]


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[Jane the Virgin]


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(Transformers Armada)


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[Hannibal - Richard Armitage/Lee Pace]


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15. [ SPOILERS for Into the Woods ]



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16. [ SPOILERS for Dragon Age ]













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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #421.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

bad friend?

[(Anonymous)]

The real reason I no longer phone/e-mail/PM my friends is because their lives are marching forward (jobs, formal higher education, boyfriends, their first house, etc.) while mine is stagnating.

I miss them so much, but I dread contact where I ask what is going on in their lives, be happy for them, but then get asked what is going on in my life, where no progress (as expected in society, at least) has been made in the last decade we've known each other.

I'm so ashamed and I've ran out of excuses.

I don't know if I'm relieved that I no longer have to put up with that stress, or hurt that they haven't contacted me in years. They used to wish me a happy birthday/merry christmases at least, every year, but it's been two years that they haven't, so I stopped wishing them happy birthdays/merry christmases as well.

Am I a bad friend?

I don't even use tumblr anymore because they follow me there, and every PM I sent them there went ignored.

Re: bad friend?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think you sound like a bad friend, just a scared friend. But I bet all of them don't think that you're actually interested in being friends with them anymore--that's what I would think if someone slowly cut off contact with me. Sounds like you need some new friends that are in a life stage more similar to yours. Easier said than done, I know. But taking baby steps toward friendships sure beats being totally alone.

Re: bad friend?

[(Anonymous)]

I can understand this a lot, when my life isn't marching forward I tend to dread the "how's life?" questions and wish more people just wanted to talk about dumb things like tv shows with me. It also gets worse when I'm going through a bad depression cycle, because then I just feel like I really have nothing to talk about.

I don't think it makes you a bad friend, some people may even be open to contact again. If not, you can always start again. Maybe try making some fandom friends? Sometimes fandom friends help because you'll automatically have something to talk about other then real life.