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[Homestuck]

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[NCIS: Los Angeles/Hawaii Five-0]

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[Left Shark (Katy Perry? Super Bowl?) and Bad-Dragon .com]

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I have been sexually attracted to many guys, done stuff with them and enjoyed it, but I have never once been romantically attracted to a guy. I can't agree with that last sentence.

But that's sexual attraction without love, that happens to a lot of people, regardless of orientation.

But, as a sexual person, have you experienced the opposite - being in love with someone, but not wanting to have sex with them? Because that's the thing that sort of doesn't quite add up to me.

The problem is that down there I'm arguing about whether nonsexual romantic love is different from friendship with you, while up here I'm arguing about whether sexual attraction and romantic attraction are different. These are two different arguments but you're trying to take a point from ours into this one.

I don't think the difference between the two arguments is that big, though, they're kind of tied up together, or at least one leads to the other. I think people's thinking is "romantic attraction is the same as/includes sexual attraction, so if there's no sexual attraction then obviously 'nonsexual romantic love' is actually friendship". (Which I disagree with for the record, I think they're all separate things, but I can see how people are getting from one to the other.)

er, I'm not sure how you're using the word "love" here, but romantic attraction doesn't always extend to that degree?

(maybe I'm just being really pedantic)

Nah what I meant was: Sex without romantic feeling or love has always been fairly common.

But I can't imagine that (if you are sexual) being romantically attracted and:or in love, without wanting to also be physical with that person, is in fact very common.

If that makes sense.

But I can't imagine that (if you are sexual) being romantically attracted and:or in love, without wanting to also be physical with that person, is in fact very common.

I can't imagine that, either. For asexuals I totally get it, but when you're not asexual, it doesn't really make sense.

Nah, that makes sense. And no, I don't think it's very common (if you're sexual) though who is to say it never happens? /shrug

Now that I think I get what you are saying I personally think that no, it's not common.

I do think it is possible though. Just uncommon.

If I use love to mean how much I love certain friends, then I'm pretty romantically asexual about them. But that's not the case at all, because we're attaching different connotations to romance. My snowflake labels that help me explain things is absolutelyaromantic bi/pan/wevssexual. obviously i don't exactly have a stake in saying biromantic isn't a thing

You mentioned earlier that there's overlap between romance and friendship. That's actually entirely fair, and not surprising (a lot of folk view their partner as a friend). But then applying that as if it's true for everyone is where it gets rather skeezy (a lot of folk don't initially view their partner as a friend). It's very personal and based on their intuition if they're separating the two, so why it has to make sense in technical terms seems off to me.

For some aromantic example I guess,... which is actually very irrelevant now that I think about it. Shit.

Anywho, I have a girlfriend (who's poly and married), but our relationship is closer to exclusive fwb if I have to be colloquially technical. Speaking for myself here, romantic relationships involve a specific need for partnership (or unit whatever), compromise, and emotional exclusivity. I have issues that definitely factor into it, but I just don't feel that way about people, much less about throwing that on one person much less on me. Sex on the other hand? Pretty basic and physical for me, and it's a bonus for everyone if the company is also enjoyable. At the same time, I'm just wired to be less sexually attracted to someone the closer I get. Maybe I will want to settle down in the future, but that also doesn't mean I'm going to pork the few people I trust enough to do that with.
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