[ SECRET POST #2977 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2977 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Paul Darrow]


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[Dragon Age: Inquisition]


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(Bee and Puppycat)


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[Joan Watson, Elementary]


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(Marvel's Agents of Shield)


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[One Piece]


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[Noah Emmerich, The Americans]


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[Teen Wolf]


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15. [ WARNING for rape ]



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16. [ WARNING for dubcon? ]










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Comments

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think it's hurting anyone

But it does. It implies that the average person is attracted to people/wants to have sex with people all the time without getting to know them first, which isn't true. It reeks of "I'm not like all those other people" because how often you experience sexual attraction and why has nothing to do with your sexual orientation and quite frankly is no one else's business but yours and the person you're dating/sleeping with.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

That's not what demisexuality is lol.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

da

then what is it? i've only heard described as needing to form an emotional connection before having sexual attraction.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Well, that right there IS what it is, but it has nothing to do with how other people are attracted to other people. This insult that you seem to be imagining is just that: imaginary.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

how is it imaginary? it very clearly implies that the majority of people are just attracted to anyone and everyone and don't require any sort of emotional connection involved. people who do need that emotional connection don't need some sort special term to separate them from everyone else because guess what, they're normal too.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Where are you getting the "anyone and everyone" implication from? Lots of people are capable of being sexually attracted to some people (their "type" if you will) just from the way they look or seem to be, without really knowing them. Demisexuality means you can't experience that kind of attraction. It's not even a question of which is more normal than the other -- saying you're demisexual isn't supposed to be an implication that you think you're ~different~. It's just a descriptor.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

So then why the need for a descriptor for one thing but not the other if not to separate yourself from the other group?

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Because one is considered the default and has no established descriptor?

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Considered the default by whom, exactly?

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Now you're being purposefully dense.

Re: confessions

[(Anonymous)]

To use your words, heterosexuality also reeks of not being like those other people who sleep with same-sex partners. Homosexuality reeks of not being like other people who sleep with opposite-sex people.

And it's that perceived slight against other people that's imaginary. it's this implication that other people want to sleep with everything that moves that's imaginary.

Re: confessions

[sarillia]

Feeling attraction for someone and actually wanting to have sex with them are two different things though.

I get your frustration. The thing that gets to me is when people explain asexuality in a way that makes it sound like "sexual" people go around wanting to jump everyone all the time.

But that's part of the same problem of acting like being attracted to someone, or even just having the potential to be attracted to a certain group of people, is the same as actively wanting to have sex with them. That leads to people acting like gay people can't be around people of the same sex because they want to sleep with every one of them and acting like bisexuals are literally attracted to everyone and that asexuals are people who just don't want to have sex rather than people who don't experience sexual attraction at all but may or may not have sex for whatever other reason.

Saying that some people don't experience sexual attraction until they get to know a person isn't saying that the people who do experience sexual attraction for people regardless of how well they know them actually want to have sex with all those people.