[ SECRET POST #2998 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2998 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Archer, linked for cartoon nudity/sex]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #428.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

14. http://i.imgur.com/hGcfTSG.png

[(Anonymous)]

That's because the episode about settlers and reachers was OOC and stupid. It's more likely you can't imagine him with anyone else because you think he's so suited to you.

[(Anonymous)]

I have feelings about this secret but I'm not sure how to put them in words.

That's not very common for me.

[sarillia]

Not being threatened by other women talking to him is a good thing.

[(Anonymous)]

I think that would be the case if OP was coming from a place of having matured and overcome jealousy. But it doesn't sound like that's the situation here, so I'm not sure if that's still true.

[sarillia]

Even if the reason behind it is something for the OP to try to change, I still see the lack of jealousy as a good thing in itself.

[(Anonymous)]

this - it's a sign of emotional maturity

[(Anonymous)]

DA

It would be if, as other anon pointed out, OP lacked jealousy out of security and acceptance.

They lack jealousy out of sheer complacency. Not the same thing.

It's like saying "My house is so crappy and rundown I don't have to worry about burglars", not "I've ensured my house is secure and protected so I don't have to worry about burglars."

(OP)

[(Anonymous)]

Hmmm no, I've never been jealous of him around other women. He can have whatever friends he wants; I know he's coming home with me. The reachers/settlers episode just made me think/worry hey, I wonder if that's why?

Re: (OP)

[(Anonymous)]

My point (or, I guess, my reading of the secret, since this is what I thought you were originally saying) was that your lack of jealousy came specifically from something about your BF, not because you had reached the point of not being jealous in relationships

Sorry for the confusion

[making_excuses]

Is jealousy really something you have to have mature and overcome for it to be real?

I have never ever in my life been jealous of my partners, not for the same reasons as the OP, but I trust them to not cheat on me. If they do, what would have my jealousy prevented?

[(Anonymous)]

Uncomfortable epiphanies are just a thing that happens in life. It'd be good though if you could try to work on those beliefs in the wake of your realization.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, this. And then, thanks to your epiphany, you can reach for "better," and you can get divorced and be miserable like the rest of us. Because no one can really have a happy, stable marriage, we're all just reaching for the next better option. Like Brad Pitt.

[/sarcasm]

[(Anonymous)]

DA

I dunno, from personal experience, confronting and thinking about uncomfortable epiphanies have helped me work past them and become closer to my SO, not give up on them and move on. I don't think the result of following up on an uncomfortable epiphany necessarily leads to realizing you need to end things with your partner (although it could). Either way, you come out more confident in your decision.

[diet_poison]

shit, I wrote a longish response to this and my internet DC'd and it got lost

but uh, basically I actually sort of relate to this (it's like a couple different times in my life coming together) and I don't necessarily think you're doing anything wrong, especially if you realize the possible pitfalls of that line of thought. Don't dwell on it and just concentrate on being appreciative of your bf and your relationship :)

[(Anonymous)]

The thing about this secret, for me, is that being in the Marshall!position sounds really great. Not even the reaching part of it. Just the part of it where you're with someone who's nice and appreciates you. That sounds fucking amazing. That's what I aspire to. And that makes me sad.

Transcript

[(Anonymous)]

Image: Lily and Marshall from HIMYM

Text: My boyfriend and I always joke about how he’s a Marshall. A bit goofy, occasionally dense, never had as much luck with the ladies as his friends…

I’ve always thought it was quite sweet - I mean, I know they’re not perfect but at the end of the day, if every Lily got her Marshall I think they’d be pretty damn lucky, and I consider myself so.

The episode about settlers and reachers, though, rings uncomfortably true. I don’t think I will ever be jealous because I can’t imagine anyone else being interested in him, whereas I could walk into another relationship tomorrow.

S!B Jesus, how egotistical can you get? I love my boyfriend to pieces and this amounts to I’m better than he is” which simply isn’t ture. Everyone thinks he’s great, but they all use words like “sweet” and “nice” and I’ve never been remotely threatened by other women talking to him.

I’d like to think that maybe I’m just so confident in our loving one antoher that I don’t feel concern on any level, but the way it was described in that episode makes me wonder if I’m taking him for granted.

I’m a terrible girlfriend.

tl;dr I’ve got the Marshall to my Lily and I kinda don’t think I deserve him.

[(Anonymous)]

This is...weird, to me. :/ I've had partners before that I got jealous over, but in the end it was because I didn't trust them enough and I wasn't secure enough in myself or the relationship. With my now-wife, I've never had an issue with it-- and it's not because I'm settling or secretly think I can do better (she could honestly get whoever she wanted, and she's pan, so I do mean whoever, haha), it's because she makes me feel fully secure. The thought that she might cheat on me doesn't even occur, and in fact kind of seems absurd. I mean...isn't that a good thing? Seems like it's one less thing to worry about.