[ SECRET POST #373 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #373 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

As usual → [ U ][ S ][ B ]

Secrets Left to Post: 10 pages, 250 secrets from Secret Submission Post #054.
Secrets Not Posted: 0 broken links, [ 1 2 3 ] not!secrets, [ 1 ] not!fandom.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Monday, January 14th, 2008.
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[olivetti250.livejournal.com]

I've read through a couple pages of these secrets after discovering you all a while back. Most of them are hilarious, I love 'em, especially since I'm an ex-fangirl (I purposefully resist fandom now) and can get the humor. However, some of these make me really, really sad.

I love this comm, I think I'll keep lurking, but some are just depressing--the emotional investment and the passive-aggressiveness of airing secrets without, you know, resolving them just makes a really assertive person like me sad. I hope all of you who have sent in sad secrets are feeling better now!

I know everyone has secrets...but why be afraid of what other people think? Seriously, it's the internet; no one can hurt you! Just say what you mean and feel and if you like someone (or hate someone), just be honest and up front and everything will be okay. Anger isn't the end of the world, and if your "friends" are cruel and petty to you (especially over silly fandom), dump 'em. You don't need bad people like that in your life!

Why are so many people passive-aggressive? Why focus on being sad and jealous that you're single (or that you broke up with someone) when you could just go out and put some effort into dating?

[aishiteru.livejournal.com]

... wooooow. In all honesty, if you HAVE been lurking for a while, then shouldn't you already have the answer to those last two questions? People are just as weird and quirky on the internet as they are in real life, they just express it in different ways. Emoticons and variations on font and capslock or lack thereof replace screaming and hugging and perhaps punching someone in the face. You make do, which gives rise to a lot of the passive-aggressiveness you see around, imo.

Especially that last question - it's not really always that easy, and that has less to do with the internet and more to do with just .. people being people.

That said, I understand a lot of where you're coming from. ): lol internet?

[olivetti250.livejournal.com]

Definitely. I'd consider it "mostly harmless," but then some people are just passive-aggressive because...I don't know. Don't know how that's useful.

I'm just saddened that some people end up feeling bad about fandom--it's supposed to be fun, and some persons make others feel bad for no good reason! Not cool. :

[ryuutchi.livejournal.com]

Uhm. Because a lot of time people just want to vent and this is a venue for venting in a way that won't cause you trouble further on down the line?

I'm a pretty assertive person myself. That doesn't mean I want to tell my best friends "DEAR GOD, I HATE YOUR FANDOM" to their face. And a lot of times, if you look, these secrets are little things that either there's not reason to say out loud or you might get looked at askance for. So this is a venue for people to just say what they want to say. Sure it's passive-aggressive, but because it's anonymous you don't know if venting here gave the person courage to resolve it later.

[seiberwing.livejournal.com]

Same reason people go to therapy or talk to a good friend. They just need to put the emotion out there in some form or fashion. Life's not as simply as it is in fandom.