[ SECRET POST #3016 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3016 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

I don't. It's not like I make it well-known like on my Tumblr or anything like that, but for my closer fandom friends, they know that I make decent bank.

[(Anonymous)]

Does it ever get awkward?
I internet-hang-out with a group of people I met in fandom years ago. We were all struggling students back then and now there's a fairly wide range of incomes in the group. Sometimes I find it weird because so much of our original bonding was due to being less wealthy.

[(Anonymous)]

DA. That's true of most friend groups from college and whatnot.

As long as people don't brag (or whine) about their finances on a regular basis, it's fine.

[lb_lee]

*laughs* Oh man, I'm That Poor Friend now for my friends who are now in law and engineering. I think they kinda look at us and wonder what happened.

It generally only gets awkward when they try and buy us dinner. I try really hard not to ask for money or favors.

--Rogan

[(Anonymous)]

I know that feel. I'm not even broke or anything, I have plenty of disposable income. But I have a good friend who is a big cheese software engineer making six figures, and he pays for everything if we're having dinner or whatever.

My attitude is "whatever, you make triple what I do, let's go eat expensive food and you can pay everything." And we make jokes. But I secretly resent him for it, to be quite honest. He's smart and good at his job, but I went to a good university (more prestigious than his, in fact) and am working in my field (and I know I do a very good job) and I don't think it's fair that his field is so much more economically valued than mine.

yeah, yeah, whine whine arts major shoulda gone for STEM! Whatever. Still bitter.

[lb_lee]

Yeah, while in my case, my law friend probably makes ten times what I do... and that's with me gauging conservative. I'm disabled; poverty is pretty much a given. My yearly income is like four figures--and we did some time in Harvard. Just a summer, but still, talk about eating crow, huh?

It helps that my law friend is kinda ruthlessly pragmatic. It's one of the things I value about him; when I called him to share some new rape news, his response was just, "That's bad," and then going straight to the practicalities of cops and lawyers. He made it clear that he understood that him buying me food makes me uncomfortable, but that this was his way of giving us a treat. We only see him a few times a year, so it's not a regular thing.

I probably WOULD resent him if he weren't so lawyery. If that makes any sense. But he's just so devoid of sentimentality that I can accept from him what I probably couldn't from anyone else.

--Rogan

[elialshadowpine]

Late, but, my ex used to have a "rule" about paying for dinner, period. I had to kick them under the table for trying to tell the friend that I knew made over $500k that we'd cover dinner. I then instituted the general rule of: Whoever is least broke at the time pays. Most of the time, that was us. Not always. Even though my ex makes really good money (not $100k but not too far off) there's the fact that a good portion went to medical because although our scripts were covered, when you have two people on a dozen or so each, it adds up; but, our doctors weren't covered, and so that meant about $800 every 3mo for specialists to prescribe the medication that allowed us to function. Add in general unexpected emergencies like kitty surgery and dental work (shit man, even with insurance, dental work is RIDIC expensive)... sometimes that meant the person who technically made less paid.

It works out, IMO, because there's give-and-take. It's not something that would work for everyone, for sure; for instance, I have friends who don't have health issues that make major bank and they would basically NEVER be in the position of not having (more than enough) money. But in general, it's worked out fairly well.

[lb_lee]

Yeah, we're stubborn and prefer to pay for our own food whenever possible. Law Friend is pretty much the only person who can argue us out of this on a regular basis. Not to disrespect the generosity of our friends, I appreciate their caring and understanding of our finances, I just get really anxious when other people buy me things.

--Rogan