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fandomsecrets2015-04-26 03:36 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-04-26 03:36 pm
[ SECRET POST #3035 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3035 ⌋
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Re: sempai notice me
(Anonymous) 2015-04-26 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)--general trigger warning here--
my weight loss. It just would have been nice to have someone in real life notice. A lot of people chimed in, and I think some were trying to make me feel better by pointing out that a lot of people aren't comfortable mentioning weight, but it didn't really help too much because that very same day I listened to one girl compliment another girl on her appearance (telling her she looked so skinny) while walking home and it made me a tad sad that no one had noticed.
Anyway, I wanted to thank the people who were supportive (although I do regret making the secret, especially without a trigger warning, in hindsight).
Re: sempai notice me
(Anonymous) 2015-04-26 10:27 pm (UTC)(link)That's the thread that made me ask :)
Re: sempai notice me
(Anonymous) 2015-04-26 10:28 pm (UTC)(link)not making fun. it made me ask because it reminded me there's something like that for all of us
Re: sempai notice me
Then again I don't know how much weight you've lost (if it's say...ten pounds, that's great! but not nearly as noticeable as say...sixty) or how considerate the people around you are...
Hearing, "You look great!" is obviously nice, but I've had my weight loss mentioned in a few ways that hurt my feelings, so... if people start commenting on it, I hope they do so carefully!
(And congrats! Losing weight can be hard.)
Re: sempai notice me
(Anonymous) 2015-04-27 01:31 am (UTC)(link)It was just disheartening to hear two girls talking about another and how great and skinny she looked that very same day.
I went from 142 to 114. So it was a HUGE amount like 60 pounds but I guess I was a bit saddened that no one ever said anything.
But thanks for your support!
Re: sempai notice me
(Anonymous) 2015-04-27 01:40 am (UTC)(link)*it wasn't a huge amount
Re: sempai notice me
Anyway, do these people see you every day? I ask because if they do, it might be more difficult for them to notice the change. I know (at first) when I was losing weight, looking at myself in the mirror every day, it didn't feel like much was happening even though I was noticing the number change on the scale and in how different my clothes fit. If they were around the whole time they might not notice so much?
But also: are you wearing clothes that fit? (I.E. aren't a size or two too big for you?) That's important; even if the clothes are big, sometimes they can make you look larger than you actually are.