[ SECRET POST #3049 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3049 ⌋

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Comments

Re: What do you say/do...

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly it's usually best not to do anything and just be supportive of the person in the relationship. Telling someone that a loved one is a dick doesn't tend to go over well. And frankly there's always the chance that it's you who are the dick, and being unfair. If there isn't abuse involved, so what? You can tell the person in the relationship if something they said offended you or whatever, but outright assassination of their character just isn't helpful.

Re: What do you say/do...

[(Anonymous)]

"Honestly it's usually best not to do anything and just be supportive of the person in the relationship."

^ This.

No one wants to hear the choice they've made in a partner is a shitty one. Support and encourage when the person involved has accepted that, but trying to convince them before they're ready to do so never works. They're more likely to ostracise you than they are the jerk partner.

Arguably, even when there is abuse present, a lot of the action that can be taken to deal with it depends on the abused party themselves making the complaint in the first place. Making them defensive on top of everything they're already going through isn't condusive to getting them to a place where they feel safe enough to do that.