[ SECRET POST #3061 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3061 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Spec Ops: The Line]


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Comments

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

I want to ask girls who tell me their bi if they've ever actually dated a girl.

I know that's totally biphobic, and it's unfair because I'm actually happy to believe that many, if not most people, could be bisexual in the right situation. And though I am mostly gay, I'm open to the idea of dating guys, so technically I guess I'm bi too.

I'm just tired of being an experiment or a political statement for feminist cred. it's stupid because I absolutely believe in bisexuality, and I believe biphobia is a thing, I just get really curious if they've actually dated that way.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

I get that.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I've known plenty of Theoretically Bi girls. Especially on Tumblr where it gets them under that precious queer umbrella so they're no longer cishet scum.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[intrigueing]

I once had a really bizarre conversation with someone on tumblr who kept asking me whether x or y or z made them bi. They REALLY wanted to be bi, and it seemed like they desperately wanted to find some sign that they were, indeed, bi. Eg, "I love this girl's hair [shows pic of girl with gorgeous hair] and I think I like it so much it would be weird for a straight girl to like it. Does that make me bi?" Stuff like that.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

I want to ask straight girls if they've ever actually dated a guy.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

If all girls who identified as straight ended up not being in long term relationships with guys, you might have a better point

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

OK, different approach: I've never dated anyone. Do you believe I'm bi?

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

I don't have any evidence one way or the other, you're just some anonymous person on the Internet.

Do you identify as bi?

Re: Inappropriate questions

[herpymcderp]

Implying all people who identify as bisexual end up in relationships with opposite gendered people? Nice. 8/10 for strong biphobia troll game.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

Never dated a girl. I know I'm bi because I feel attraction to women. I don't usually go around trumpeting it but it's how I identify. Eh I honestly don't see why I would need to date a girl to know I feel attraction to them.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[herpymcderp]

I don't think that's an inappropriate question if you're in a position where you might want to have sex with someone (and it looks like they also might want to have sex with you).

It's a lot better to ask beforehand than to find out once the pants come off that someone was just curious/questioning and has decided that once your face is in their crotch they really were just straight after all.

I mean, sure, that's a stereotype in and of itself, but it does happen. It has happened to me. I'm not saying that it means I won't get intimate with a person who is inexperienced, but it does change my expectations accordingly.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[ibbity]

I haven't, for a variety of reasons. But I've only ever dated one guy in my life, so it's not like I've been dating willy nilly in general. I grew up in a VERY conservative community where you could not breathe a hint of same-sex attraction without bringing down some quite unpleasant consequences on yourself, so there was also that. Possibly related to this: all the girls I ever crushed on turned out to be straight and definitely would not have been interested in dating me.

I did occasionally try to go into GSM spaces online, but the lesbians there tended to be overwhelmingly hostile and aggressively unwelcoming to bi women, so I never engaged in any flirtations online or anything like that because I learned better than to let on to being bi where gay women congregated, and I wasn't gonna lie and say I was a strict lesbian.

By the time I was in a place where I COULD have dated a girl (provided that I didn't mind the fact that it would likely at least partially cut me off from most of my family and quite a few of my friends), I was already involved with my boyfriend. I love him and I don't regret involving myself with him, but sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I could have explored that part of me before we got together.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

Well, I'm a bi girl who's primarily dated girls, and any asshole who asked me that would definitely not have to worry about being my experiment or political statement, because they'd be dropped straight onto the "no, not now, not ever" list.

Re: Inappropriate questions

[(Anonymous)]

The thing is, human experience is a lot more complicated than "have you dated" or "have you not dated".

For example, my first time falling in love with a woman was with a straight woman. Relationship possibility? Completely off the table. Didn't mean I loved her any less (and I mean the love that is both attraction and friendship. Would have married her if I could and the feelings were actually mutual).

My second relationship with a woman was more "friends with benefits" heading toward "long term relationship". We didn't "date", so much as just spent time together.

So I haven't technically dated any women, though I have fallen in love with women.

See? Not that simple. :)