[ SECRET POST #3065 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3065 ⌋

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[The Witcher 3]


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[Shakin Stevens]


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[The Godfather II]


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[A Redtail's Dream]


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[David Lynch & David Cronenberg]


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[Laurell K. Hamilton]


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[Big Bang Theory]


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(Richard Dawkins)


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Comments

Re: awkward questions

[elaminator]

Being asked if I had gastric bypass surgery was a bit awkward. (I didn't.)

I did lose a lot of weight so I don't blame people for noticing, but it kind of startled me, lol.

Re: awkward questions

[sarillia]

I've had people startle me like that just by asking if I lost weight. I think each of the last few times I looked myself over before stammering "I don't know". I think I added a maybe afterward one time because I remember the person who asked adding "Is that a good thing?" which was awkward but at least she acknowledged that there are a lot of unpleasant things that cause people to lose weight.

Re: awkward questions

[elaminator]

Weight loss is an awkward thing to ask about in general imo. (What if the person has an ED, or its a sensitive topic for other reasons? Then you have people who haven't lost weight and don't want to.) Unless the loss is glaringly noticeable, I would never even consider mentioning it. Even then it's probably just better to say, “You look good".

You have a point about lots of unpleasant things causing weight loss. Most people jump to diet by default, and I guess that's because considering the other options is too... Well, unpleasant.

Re: awkward questions

[(Anonymous)]

I'd be surprised that someone would automatically go to "gastric bypass surgery" instead of just the simpler "you look like you've lost weight." On the positive side, I guess that means you've lost a lot, which is a lot of hard work, so congrats!

In my case, I find that people didn't notice that I'd lost weight until it was about 30 lbs. It happens gradually, and yet it seems like you have to lost quite a lot before people notice. Or maybe, it's just that they don't feel safe asking if you've lost weight until they're really sure.

Re: awkward questions

[elaminator]

Funnily enough, it was a pharmacist that asked the question. I hadn't needed meds in quite a while and she was never there when I dropped by anymore; it had probably been a year and a half since I'd seen her.

By that point I had lost a lot of weight, so I didn't mind people mentioning it (I worked hard for it, might as well), but yea, surgery was a pretty big leap; lots of people lose weight other ways.

You might be onto something; I would never ask someone if they had lost weight unless I was sure, and even then... Idk, I might just tell the person they look good. (It's awkward to assume people's reasons, and sometimes weight loss happens for bad ones.)

Change IS gradual, I think that's why I didn't look at myself and go “Wow, that's different" until I lost about forty pounds. (Even though I had lost dress sizes during that time period.) Maybe because you see yourself in the mirror everyday so it's easier to adjust to the small changes; you don't really notice until something big happens.