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[ SECRET POST #3065 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3065 ⌋

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[The Witcher 3]

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[Shakin Stevens]

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[The Godfather II]

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[A Redtail's Dream]

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[David Lynch & David Cronenberg]

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[Laurell K. Hamilton]

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[Big Bang Theory]

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(Richard Dawkins)

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been asked any awkward questions lately?

here's mine, what do you do when a friend who you consider average looking asks you if you think they're comparatively attractive?

Always say "yes." Though it's rather a snooty question to ask.

Not lately, but one time a business associate (if you will) came into the office, and could not get over the fact that my coworker, who'd lost weight, wasn't "fat" anymore. She then turned to me and said, "did you know Kimmie when she was fat?"

I just sort of stared back because I was so horrified. Unfortunately I didn't think of good answers until that night.

(And this borderline fat shamey woman wasn't exactly slender herself.)

Ugh awkward!

This sort of goes with mine. I lost 45 pounds this year mostly from being really sick, and when I tell people this, they say that it's wonderful and lucky, and then some of them ask how they too can get sick enough to lose that much weight.

AYRT - Oh, that's awful. :/ People can be so stupid.

Your reaction was correct and the most polite one you could've given, under the circumstances. Miss Manners is big on genteel shock as a response to indelicate questions!

I'd say that as their friend, I couldn't really be objective about that.

Not my side of the family, but the second they learned we bought a house my sister in law's relatives started asking/hinting about when we plan to have kids.

We don't plan to have kids. There's a possibility we'll adopt at some point, maybe.

It's taking everything I have to not start calling them breeders or something equally offensive.

Pick a date and give them a detailed plan of how you're going to renovate the house to accommodate the new baby. Talk about buying tiny beds and tiny clothes and making sure you proof the house against bathroom accidents and dangerous things like electrical cables. Say you've been reading up on how to deal with whiny or fussy babies and working out scheduling so at least one of you is home with them at all times through the first few months. Complain about lack of paternity leave. Ask if they think obedience classes are a good idea

Man, I would complain about lack of paternity leave already. Shit is WACK.

Talk about choosing names, start with human sounding ones at first then get slowly into more dog sounding ones then look them seriously in the eye and act offended when they comment that Snowy is maybe not a good human baby name

.......So, you're saying it's bad that one of the baby names we chose already actually is a dog name?

No, but only because I don't like babies too much

Good, because it is an awesome name, fuck the haters.

Every time we go to visit my grandma in housing place she's at she asks me if I have a boyfriend.

It's all kinds of awkward, but I can't really hold her to that, I guess.

Oh, man! I feel you on this. At my sister's wedding all of the groom's family kept asking if I was going to be next. They didn't back off even when I explained that I didn't have a boyfriend and didn't need them to set me up with someone because I was leaving in a month to travel internationally. Eventually it got to the point where I would just look them dead in the eye and say, in a flat voice, that it wasn't worth all the hassle if I was just going to murder them within the year.

Surprisingly enough, it actually worked. My family thought it was hilarious.

Reply that it has been a while since you last saw her turn one to stone with just a glance now she comes to mention it.

Not recently, and thank heaven for that.

Being asked if I had gastric bypass surgery was a bit awkward. (I didn't.)

I did lose a lot of weight so I don't blame people for noticing, but it kind of startled me, lol.

I've had people startle me like that just by asking if I lost weight. I think each of the last few times I looked myself over before stammering "I don't know". I think I added a maybe afterward one time because I remember the person who asked adding "Is that a good thing?" which was awkward but at least she acknowledged that there are a lot of unpleasant things that cause people to lose weight.

Weight loss is an awkward thing to ask about in general imo. (What if the person has an ED, or its a sensitive topic for other reasons? Then you have people who haven't lost weight and don't want to.) Unless the loss is glaringly noticeable, I would never even consider mentioning it. Even then it's probably just better to say, “You look good".

You have a point about lots of unpleasant things causing weight loss. Most people jump to diet by default, and I guess that's because considering the other options is too... Well, unpleasant.

I'd be surprised that someone would automatically go to "gastric bypass surgery" instead of just the simpler "you look like you've lost weight." On the positive side, I guess that means you've lost a lot, which is a lot of hard work, so congrats!

In my case, I find that people didn't notice that I'd lost weight until it was about 30 lbs. It happens gradually, and yet it seems like you have to lost quite a lot before people notice. Or maybe, it's just that they don't feel safe asking if you've lost weight until they're really sure.

Funnily enough, it was a pharmacist that asked the question. I hadn't needed meds in quite a while and she was never there when I dropped by anymore; it had probably been a year and a half since I'd seen her.

By that point I had lost a lot of weight, so I didn't mind people mentioning it (I worked hard for it, might as well), but yea, surgery was a pretty big leap; lots of people lose weight other ways.

You might be onto something; I would never ask someone if they had lost weight unless I was sure, and even then... Idk, I might just tell the person they look good. (It's awkward to assume people's reasons, and sometimes weight loss happens for bad ones.)

Change IS gradual, I think that's why I didn't look at myself and go “Wow, that's different" until I lost about forty pounds. (Even though I had lost dress sizes during that time period.) Maybe because you see yourself in the mirror everyday so it's easier to adjust to the small changes; you don't really notice until something big happens.

Have you tried walking normally?
Oh my god. Thank you for curing me. All this time, all I had to do was try to walk normally.

Are you eating?
No. I absorb my energy from the earth when I meditate.

Can you be disabled if you aren't in a wheelchair? I don't think you can.
Hilarious to me, because I actually was in a chair for a while. So much respect for people who use a wheelchair daily. I never realised how many stairs there are in the world before that.

I had a girl from one of my uni classes ask me "My boyfriend hasn't slept with me for a week, do you think he doesn't love me anymore?!" - And all I could do was stare at her and wonder if "Damn, I don't even know your name, let alone your boyfriend and your sex life, how the fuck should I know?" would be a valid answer.

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