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My sister's (Sister A) BF has a history of drug abuse (pills and cocaine). Basically, if there are pills in the house, he will abuse them. So much so, that Sister A didn't tell him that she has a prescription now for some kind of anxiety meds.

The BF has chronic pain (but the drug abuse predates this) but Sister A is okay with him (illegally) smoking a bit of weed once a day for it. It costs less and he can't really abuse it or OD.

Today I was told that the BF had asked a coworker (thru FB) if she had any pills he could buy from her. She recently hurt her back or something that resulted in her getting some heavy duty pain pills. She told him No and told Sister B. Sister B came to me to ask if she should tell Sister A what Boyfriend did.

I have not told Sister A because I don't want to stress her out (she has had some tough months). But if he is looking around for pills, I think she would want to know. But I don't want to "tattle" not get Sister B and coworker into it.

Tell her. You're already aware that this sort of thing requires heavy policing, and if it's getting to the point where the boyfriend's dependence isn't being met by whatever he is using to control it, then that's pertinent information and not something to keep from her.

This situation usually winds up with the person in question stealing valuables and leaving or being kicked out. It's generally best to address it before it comes to that point.

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Agreed. If I were her, I'd rather know than have it kept from me. I've personally just had too many instances where secrets meant to protect me came back to bite me in the ass.

We are doing something this weekend. Should I wait until afterwards so as to not sour the experience?

That's probably advisable, yes. At any rate, pick a time where everyone is sitting down and relatively sedate to break the news, and try to be as impartial as possible about it. Also, be prepared for the possibility that she will get emotional or that some denial will be involved in the exchange; try not to overreact to it or take it personally if that happens.

Just remember that telling her this is going to be better for her in the long term than in the short term.

Also would it be better to have Sister B tell her since she was the one who spoke with coworker?

If it's possible you might want to have her along with you when you decide to tell her, but it's not strictly necessary. Do make sure she knows what you are going to do before you share that information, though.

The best person to actually do the talking is the person who is most comfortable with doing it, though.

"It costs less and he can't really abuse it or OD."

Er, you can abuse pot, actually, if by "abuse" you mean "form an unhealthy addiction to". I know a lot of people (who smoke pot) don't like to think this because pot is a happy, friendly drug, but hell, it's still a drug and some people are more prone to addictions than others. There are people addicted to the friggin' SHOPPING CHANNEL, ffs. Marijuana addiction and abuse is not impossible, particularly when you're clearly dealing with a guy who is self medicating and has a long history of abusing other drugs.

You should tell your sister. Keeping this news from her won't help in the long run. Sure, she won't have the immediate stress of knowing her BF is having trouble, but not telling her things you believe she'd want to know will likely cause trouble between you and her. Who needs that?

She should ditch that loser like he's got the plague, though. There is only going to be grief and heartache in her future as long as he's in her life.

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