[ SECRET POST #3075 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3075 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Eurovision]


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14. [SPOILERS for Steven Universe]



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15. [SPOILERS for Age of Ultron]



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16. [SPOILERS for Harry Potter, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and DragonFable]



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17. [WARNING for sexual abuse]

(Duggar Family, 19 kids & Counting)


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18. [WARNING for incest]

[A Redtail's Dream]


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Comments

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

I think empathy instead of sympathy might help you figure out how to get your mom help. Also take a short time out of your day to just talk with her (on the phone if necessary) as a companion and not a worried/frustrated daughter or son. You might get to know your mom's situation better because no one enjoys being depressed.

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

she's depressed because she feels that she failed her sole duty as a good religious woman by having a gay child. she's not trying to be emotionally manipulative, she's legitimately devout and depressed because she feels like she's failed her life's work.

sooo empathy is not real possible on my end. sympathy is as far as it gets

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

If she genuinely feels that way about you, then she's clearly not a good parent. You should probably just pack your shit and leave.

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

im tired and frustrated with her depression but i dont not love her and she doesn't not love me. it's not something i can cut contact and walk away from that easily. i try to ignore it as much as possible but i wish there was a way to fix it

she's not a good parent. she's been a mediocre one since forever. but someone doesn't deserve to be left to be depressed all alone just because they're a mediocre parent

different anon

[(Anonymous)]

I have a dad who's also depressed, a somewhat mediocre parent (and he may have molested me??? I'm not too sure, my memories aren't clear, but I remember being uncomfortable and walking out), and one who vigorously refuses therapy/medication to cure his depression. Also I'm not gay, so he's not abrasive in that angle, but goddamn, can he disapprove the hell out of me and my mother sometimes. But anyway, the point of my post is this:

My advice is to work on your own stuff. It sucks being an empathetic creature who is aware of the suffering of those you care about, but your efforts to drag them out against their will can backfire. If they don't want to do something, that's all that there is to it.

If you do want to help though, think of little things that would you brighten your day a little if it were you. Maybe a phone call, an unexpected candy bar, etc. However, depending on how much this parent of yours is being an asshole [my dad is one], don't put put too much effort into those things because they may decide for whatever reason to not reciprocate your good will (holy fuck, I think I may have been abused as a kid now that I think about it).

Focus on yourself, and best of luck.

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

Well, that's fair then. That also makes things complicated and sounds unhealthy for you.

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

I agree about packing your shit and leaving. Maybe one day you and her will reconcile when she realizes that you are more important than her religious duty

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

What the fuck, that's terrible.

Some distance might be best, for your own sake.

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

Have you considered contacting PFLAG? Inviting them over? Maybe if she sees she's not the only religious person with a gay child she might come around a little.

Re: tw: depression

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe get in touch with PFLAG and see if they have someone local and religious (hopefully a pastor/priest?) who can talk to her about how this is not the end of the world.