[ SECRET POST #3075 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3075 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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14. [SPOILERS for Steven Universe]



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17. [WARNING for sexual abuse]

(Duggar Family, 19 kids & Counting)


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[A Redtail's Dream]


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Comments

Re: I wish I came out earlier.

[(Anonymous)]

I want to basically reiterate what the first person who replied to this said. I only know you through lurking here, but I think you're pretty great and one of my favourite posters here. As for your issue, I think this might be one of those situations where you just have to grit your teeth and do it. Because doing something that's super scary and hard now is SO much better than still being closeted and unhappy in 10, 20, 50 years.

You could start off small - you don't have to announce it from rooftops. Tell a few close friends, or even just one. Or even just an acquaintance who would be sympathetic. Join a local queer group when you're ready (whether it's on campus, or through meetup.com or whatever) - and introduce yourself as bi there. Things will probably seem a lot less daunting once you have a group of people you know who've only known you as bi and have no problems with it.

As for your parents - it's sucky that your mum is like that. And you might have to face the possibility that she's always going to be like that, your parents will always be like that, and will react in the worst possible way. Accepting that and bracing yourself for it emotionally is going to help a lot. But at the same time, its funny how fickle people are - have you considered the possibility that your mum has lots of homophobic, deeply ingrained opinions about other gay/bisexual people, but that when it comes to her own flesh and blood - when it comes to a human being she actually knows and loves - that she might suddenly find an exception to the rule? People are funny and hypocritical like that. (Also, when you do talk to your mum, don't let her try to spin it like you've suddenly 'realised'. Tell her that you've known for years and that The Guy knew too, and it was fine.)

Also it might be helpful to look up stories of other people coming out who were worried about how their friends/family would react. It's always reassuring to know that you are not the only person to have gone through this.

You could just wait till you move for work. Only you know how much of an excuse that is, and how likely it is you'll find another excuse when you move. But if you get into a long term relationship with a woman you'll eventually have to have this conversation anyway. And the longer you wait the harder it's going to seem.

Whatever you decide, good luck with it!