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I don't think anyone from my father's side of the family ever learned how to recognize and accept tragedy. Every time something bad is about to happen, they come up with a reason why it's not really happening, or won't happen yet, or they don't need to worry about it . . . Then it finally happens, and they're blindsided. They just can't believe it happened, because they did everything they possibly could not to believe in it.

Up until a few days ago, he was insisting the cat was slowly getting better. Now he's insisting it's still happy and enjoys looking around, and he won't put it to sleep until it's no longer happy. I'm the one in charge of giving it medicine every twelve hours, so I feel complicit in keeping it alive when it seems so sick and miserable to me.

I'm so sorry you have to go through that

*hugs*

(Also, I'm sorry if I sound like an ass and I hope I'm not offending you, but what you described sounds a lot like your father might be a narcissist. Again, sorry for making assumptions, but I was raised by one and... yeah.)

na

I didn't really get that impression tbh (I mean, he really could be a narcissist for all I know, but this post in particular didn't really indicate that to me, at least not with the details that have been given). It sounds more like he's just severely in denial and unwilling to accept the fact that his pet is dying. Things like are pretty common. Hell, we don't just do it to pets, we do it to people as well all the time because even when someone is desperately and direly ill enough to believe that ending their life is genuinely the best option, a lot of people will refuse to accept that and encourage their loved one to keep hanging onto life for their own peace of mind. I would say that it's the opposite of being narcissistic, although it's certainly still selfish.

My mother just talked to him, and they told me to stop giving the medicine to the cat. Dad spent the whole conversation sitting on the couch, stroking the cat over and over. I think he probably needs that hug more than I do.

da

That's so sad. It sounds like both you and your father are in a really awful position :( I hope that your cat finds peace soon

How about the realization that my family was REALLY fucked up even though it felt normal to me at the time?

I was never physically abused, though my parents believed in spanking, but I don't remember any serious spankings and I was always really obedient so I hardly ever got any at all, anyway. My dad's a big intimidating guy but I always knew he loved me, even if he could be kinda severe sometimes.

So one day he is looking through this box he got at a yard sale, and takes out this little toy like, plastic retractable knife? I would have used it for like, a prop for a play or something. It's the kind that you push it and the plastic blade goes inside the handle so it looks like the blade is actually going into whatever/whoever you're "stabbing".

My dad wasn't expecting to find it and kinda laughed and turned to me and got this fake angry voice, "I told you to do your chores!" and fake-stabbed me in the side.

And I freaked the fuck out.

Like, panicky, sobbing, really believed for a second there my dad had fucking STABBED me.

He was horrified, I was upset, and it was really disturbing to me afterwards, like - what's WRONG with me and/or my family that I actually thought for a second he'd DO that?

I told this story to a friend at college who thought my dad was just terrible for doing it at all, even if he was joking. Thoughts? :/

*braces self*

idk, if my dad did that to me then I probably would have found it funny because that's the kind of dynamic that we have. That doesn't mean your feelings are invalid though (you do mention after all that you find your father to be an intimidating person and it makes sense that you would freak out if he'd never really played those kinds of jokes on you previously to the incident) and I hope that you and your father are able to eventually work through the underlying trust issues that you have with him.

Oops, sorry, anon, misfire :(

How old were you at the time?

Maybe 15?

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