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⌈ Secret Post #3127 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Rant thread!

[(Anonymous)]

A lot of things to untangle here.

1) This person is a crappy friend.
2) Your mom is wrong. You do not have to put up with assholes as friends. There is no prize for being a long suffering martyr to a friend who is inconsiderate and dismissive of your friendship.
3) If you haven't firmly but politely called your friend out on this, "Hey, I thought we had planned to do _________ and this is the third time you've bailed. What's up?" then perhaps you should consider doing it. But only if you can do it calmly and not in an accusatory fashion because that will only start a fight.
4) In the end, you have to realize that you cannot control your friend's actions, you can only control your own. As much as it'd be nice if she acknowledged her poor behavior and maybe even apologized, you can't force her to do this. You can, however, decide to do a slow fade on this person or at least dial back your commitments until you find the real level your friendship is at. By that I mean maybe you're not the type of friends who see each other more than once a month, etc.

Sometimes you can salvage a friendship, but you cannot do it by yourself. If your friend isn't interested in being a better friend, it's time to shop around for new ones.

Re: Rant thread!

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Thank you so much for your advice. We usually are the kind of friends who get along better if we see each other once every other month. She has a huge social roster and I'm socially awkward, so she has a lot of places to go, people to see.

Though I don't want to sound like I'm making excuses for her, I really hate it when I try to wrangle in some time for us and I get brushed off. What I'm not used to is all of this happening at once. We've never had this many issues before so many times in a row, and over things I've been trying to do to help.

I think I'll just go back to my usual standby- just lay low until she gets the urge to contact me again for a meetup, and if she flakes on me again, I'll make note of it every time it happens from now on. Hopefully that'll bring it to her attention.