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⌈ Secret Post #3127 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Rant thread!

[(Anonymous)]

I understand. The longer a friendship has lasted, the harder it is to see it end. But the problem is that you're right, this problem could be easily fixed if your friend was a little more considerate. Unless you're really, really good about letting things go, the resentment will build up over time and start eating away at the friendship even if you don't want to end it. You could try to train (for lack of a better word) her out of it, but honestly, that's really hard to do. You'd have to call her on her behavior each and every time (without getting angry) and hope that forcing her to stop and reconsider her actions will bring about a change in her habits. That will only work if she understands it's a problem AND is willing to work on it.

But regardless of what you decide, making new friends is always a good idea. You can't have too many friends.

Re: Rant thread!

[(Anonymous)]

The resentment has definitely been building up, unfortunately. I've done everything over the years from passive-aggressively ignoring her back (which lead to neither of us talking for more than a year) to outright accusations, but I find arguments to be too tiresome these days so more recently I either bite my tongue or I mention it to her using a lot of "I FEEL YOU DO THIS" statements which similarly gets me nowhere. A problem is that she seemingly never gets angry at me for anything so if I bring up her behavior too frequently I feel..........like somehow I'm the bully here? There's a lot of small factors involved that make me feel like I can't express genuine anger at her actions, but the flipside is stating thing thing so gently she brushes it off. Or rather, she says she'll do better, but she's too much of a flake to remember/commit.

ANYWAY, thanks for the support, anon! I feel loads better and you had good things to say. Thanks for listening!