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When you have to take a step back from social media for your mental wellbeing, and you tell people, and no makes any comment on it.

Not that I expected such, or was looking for backpatting. Just saying, a "You okay man?" would be nice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oh8zcbC_Dcw

I'm sorry. I do hope you feel better.

People on social media can be very fickle, I've found. Someone posts a picture of pancakes and they lose their shit with likes, but you post something like that and yeah, no response. :/

I'm sorry you're not doing well, but I also can understand why no one would comment. The occasions I have seen posts along those lines, it's always seemed very "LOOK AT ME I WANT ATTENTION!!!" Which is not at all to say that's what yours is, but I think it's a knee-jerk reaction in a lot of people to ignore those posts.

NAYRT but I think your reaction - while honest, and not wrong - is part of a deeper social problem

Not anon you replied to - good point, though I also partly blame all the people who post things like "crying and wracking my brains I don't know what I'm gonna do", and after 300 "what's wrongs" they finally admit they broke a nail or something. So now no one knows when "I'm having a problem" is a problem and when it's something silly and their friend just wanted attention.

I don't know how how OP worded it, of course - if (s)he put it exactly as they did here, then it's pretty clear, to me at least, that it's not someone crying over spilled milk.

Not that it excuses everyone's lack of response, but do you post often? If not, FB may actually be hiding your posts. There's posts I never see because FB has decided I don't really want to see them.

if by social media you mean Facebook, it's not that people don't care, it's like they that they didn't notice because they don't see any of your posts.

if you mean tumblr, well, could be the same - if you're not reblogging and tagging popular fandoms and the only people following you are in it for fandoms, they won't notice who is or isn't reblogging things.

IA with anon above...social media can be odd. I also think sometimes people don't feel comfortable commenting on serious stuff, but have no issue finding something to say when you post a selfie, or a meme, or a question about what you should eat for dinner.

Maybe people care but haven't seen it yet, or maybe there's something else going on...idk.

(It also could depend on what exactly was said. If you said, "I don't feel like posting right now" or "I think I need to spend less time online" they might not take it as something to be concerned about.)

Hope you feel better, though.

Edited 2015-08-09 23:05 (UTC)

i tend to assume that when someone does this they probably don't want to be bothered and that their exact reasons for it are none of my business.

This. I've had too many incidents where I did ask what was wrong and got "I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT LEAVE ME ALONE" so eventually I just stopped saying anything.

Feel better!

*tip fedora*

I think it also depends on how you worded the post and what your posting history is like.

If you have a history of posts that some people might see as attention seeking, there could be a chance that they see this as another 'cry wolf' situation.

If you just posted a "Taking some time off from social media!" post and didn't specify why or that it was mental health related, some people might just read it and think, "Oh okay." and nothing more.

Or, to be honest, maybe you're not as close as you thought you were. Maybe they considered you a peripheral friend and don't feel that commenting or digging into personal stuff is something they feel they should be doing--or something they want to do.

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