[ SECRET POST #3143 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3143 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Asexuality, demisexuality, etc

[(Anonymous)]

Since I'm not sure demisexuality means anything significant, I guess it could be "real", it's just... normal, therefore it does not need a title.

Asexuality, I don't know. I absolutely believe asexuality is a real thing and some people never experience sexual attraction. But I'm a little skeptical of teenagers who claim that. I myself didn't become sexual at all until college, I had no desire to have sex and was really turned off when my high school boyfriends tried to take things beyond kissing. I didn't masturbate until I was 19 (whenever I had tried before, I felt nothing). I just mean, I think it's normal to not necessarily become a sexual person the moment you hit puberty. I suppose the term "asexuality" in that case might be appropriate as a possible non-permanent thing, but having that identity does imply that it's a permanent part of who you are. Which again, I'm willing to believe is true for a lot of people, but idk I wouldn't be surprised if it wasn't actually a permanent thing for a lot of teenagers who think they might be asexual.

Re: Asexuality, demisexuality, etc

[chardmonster]

I think this kind of explains a lot of "grey" asexuals. They realize they sometimes have sexual feelings but don't want to give up a label that's become important to them.

Re: Asexuality, demisexuality, etc

[(Anonymous)]

I would be less skeptical of asexuality if I knew a single normal, well-adjusted adult who identified as asexual. Everyone I know who claims that label is either socially awkward, emotionally immature, or has self-esteem/self-perception/body image issues.

Re: Asexuality, demisexuality, etc

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know about that. I could see how someone with those issues might want to identify as asexual. I haven't met anyone myself who identifies as such irl, so can't share anecdotes.

I just hypothetically have no reason to believe asexuality doesn't exist. I think people have varying levels of sex drives, so someone who doesn't have any at all isn't a stretch.

Re: Asexuality, demisexuality, etc

[(Anonymous)]

I'm a fairly* normal, well-adjusted adult and I fit the definition of asexuality, although I don't usually use the word. I've never told anyone I interact with in person because it just doesn't seem to be relevant information to anyone I'm not going to potentially be dating. And online I've only used it when discussing sexuality and orientations because it's a simpler/shorter way of saying how I feel.

Anyway, my point is that I think there are plenty of real asexual (at least fitting the definition, even if they don't use the word) people, but you don't know because they don't make a big deal of it. It's mostly not that important, and they just live their lives. The (mostly younger) people who are constantly going on about it and seem to craft their entire identity around it, I'm more likely to think they have other issues and/or just want attention.

*Just because I feel like NO ONE is 100% "normal" and it really depends on what your criteria for "normal" is as well...