[ SECRET POST #3144 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3144 ⌋

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[Grace Kelly, Judy Garland]


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Comments

Re: Sexist mother...venting

[(Anonymous)]

It's not that she's sexist. It's that she's kind of an asshole who just happens to prefer the sexist kinds of comments.

Since she does that kind of shit all the time, then clearly you aren't overreacting.

Some people fail to see themselves for what they really are, never step outside themselves and into the other person's shoes, and have no idea or any concerns about how their actions may affect others.

And you can't change them.

I had a parent that did the exact same shit, didn't care if they aired my "dirty" laundry to their friends right in front of me, had no respect for me, always was like I'M JUST JOKING DON'T BE SO SENSITIVE every time they said something shitty they didn't want to take responsibility for. I don't know what was worse, that or the more recent years when THEY started overreacting to something neutral I would say and make me out to be the devil just for having an opinion. Like, a non-judgy, non-insulting, singling out no one, kind of opinion. I don't talk to them anymore; who needs that kind of drama?

You can't really control the stuff that comes out of her mouth, you can only say "hey, that's not cool" like you've been doing and leave it at that. Asserting yourself just means making your stance known; it's not about forcing someone to change. The non who mentioned "training" your mom also had some good points. If you do spend less time with her, don't feel guilty about it.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

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Exactly. Like, I didn't give her permission to be talking about my menstrual cycle with her friend, that's personal, but she has no respect for anyone's boundaries. I'm assuming she also didn't have permission to tell me about how my brother caught an STD from his girlfriend and unknowingly gave it to his next girlfriend, or to tell a friend of hers that another friend (that the first friend barely knew) had an open marriage and how much she (my mom) judged her for it.

And when she'll say something homophobic or racist or whatever else and I'll call her on it she's all "I'm totally entitled to my opinion, you're just pissed because I don't agree with you". I'm sorry, but not all opinions are equally valid, and saying that non-straight people are sick isn't an opinion that I have to respect. It's just not.

Grrrr. I think I need to just avoid her for awhile.