[ SECRET POST #3144 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3144 ⌋

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[Grace Kelly, Judy Garland]


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Comments

Re: Sexist mother...venting

[(Anonymous)]

OP

When she claimed it was a joke, I told her I wasn't laughing and she tried to claim I was (I definitely was not). Her friend did laugh, though (she's really similar to my mom as far as the background she was raised with and the sexist bullshit) so I guess she found it funny, but I definitely didn't.

When I told her that I'd never tell anyone how horrible she is she was like "you should!" so I'm going to. The next time someone mentions how awful their mom is, I'm going to say mine is too, especially if she's there, and see how she likes it.

I am on my own, so I do think I'm going to just try to spend less time with her, but I also feel like I need to stand my ground more. As I said in another comment, my dad never wants to start arguments so he just ignores her when she says horrible shit and tells me I should, too, but that's why she does this stuff, because she (usually; I only say something when I get REALLY fed up with her) doesn't have anyone telling her it's not acceptable.

Whenever she says something ignorant about an issue that's really important to me (LGBT rights, women's rights, etc.) she says that it's "ridiculous" and "not important" and she doesn't want to talk about it and changes the subject. So the next time she's bitching about some minor slight my dad did to her 10 years ago and how he's so awful because of it, instead of listening like I normally do I'm going to tell her it's ridiculous and refuse to talk about it.

Maybe if I start treating her the way she treats me it'll get through to her that her behavior isn't acceptable.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

[(Anonymous)]

Well, that's certainly one way to handle it.

I'll be honest, though. She probably won't get the message if you flip it around on her, and she probably won't see the irony in her butthurt, either. You can't really change people, and that kind of negative counterattack might give you some satisfaction, but it won't make her a better person. Momentarily stunned, possibly, but not a better person.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

[(Anonymous)]

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I know that you're right, but if nothing's going to make her a better person, why not at least make myself feel a little better?

That probably isn't the right way to handle it, I know, it's just really frustrating.

Re: Sexist mother...venting

[(Anonymous)]

I can understand that. You're entitled to your frustration. That sheer level of disrespect would drive anybody nuts.