[ SECRET POST #3158 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3158 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Raedus]


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[American Odyssey]


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Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[fscom]

03. http://i.imgur.com/AHlJThF.png

[(Anonymous)]

Go to tumblr, make some one-fandom-specific sideblogs. Then go nuts!

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Then kill yourself when you get dogpiled, harrassed, bullied, stalked, and doxxed.

[fingalsanteater]

What.

[fingalsanteater]

Do you talk about your fave fandoms more than me? Because I talk about my fave fandoms a lot and I don't care if people are bothered by it. Fandom is supposed to be fun. You gotta learn to let go a little and ignore people who try to make it not fun.

[(Anonymous)]

Ha! That's funny, because I assumed OP is a named user, and thought that maybe, just maybe, it was you. ;)

[(Anonymous)]

...that conclusion doesn't make any sense at all? Since when does fingal "not tell anyone about their fandoms" like the secret-maker?

[fingalsanteater]

Nah. I don't really get too embarrassed about my fandoms and how much I talk about them. I naturally ease off them after a while once I realize no one but me cares the shiny newness of them wears off, so I'm not too worried about being annoying first off because we are all like that when we first fall in love with something.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm similar. I'm cautious about talking about the things I really love. I feel like I'm boring/annoying everyone every time I talk about them.

[(Anonymous)]

There might be a few issues to consider here.

1) It's one thing to be obsessive about fandom, but sometimes obsessive people can be a little oblivious when it comes to realizing how much they dominate a conversation. Are you letting other people enthuse about their favorite fandoms, or non-fandom talk, or do you always want to ONLY discuss your favorites?

2) As much as I enjoy fandom, it's important to pursue activities outside of fandom, too. Fandom's an insular world. That's part of what makes it feel like a sanctuary, but it also means that the more time you spend in it, the less comfortable you feel in more mainstream settings. Having a foot in both worlds helps you keep a healthy balance so you don't end up labeled as "that obsessed _________ fan".

2) Sometimes people just bitch when the discussion isn't about their fandom. If you're sure you're not domineering the conversation and that you've got a healthy balance of fandom and non-fandom stuff in your life, then maybe it's other people who are quick to snark.

[(Anonymous)]

This is a good comment and you should feel good, especially about point 1.

[(Anonymous)]

You just need to find some people as into your fandom as you are, anon.

(fwiw, I come to F!S daily, and the only time I say to myself "Wow, we've had a lot of _____ secrets lately!" is when we have a bunch of ___ secrets in a short periond of time... but that doesn't mean it bugs me, and I'm going to guess it doesn't bug most of the people who come to F!S, either. Yes, there are a few people here who like to shit on other people's lawns, but they're the minority.)

[(Anonymous)]

I understand that feeling, though I've never had it as bad as that. I don't know how old you are but when I was a teenager, most people didn't even know what fandom was, what it meant to be a fan and if it did they pictured the weirdest kind of Trekkies that got mocked on tv. So yeah, I kept quiet about what I was up to online, never made fandom friends. My immediate family sort of knew, but there too it was a bit of a joke.

Maybe it's because fandom's gone mainstream, maybe it's because I'm older now, but these days I care a lot less. I still 'hold back' around other people on occasion (mostly because I realize that simply because something interests me doesn't mean it interests them), but I refuse to be embarrassed about what I like and how much I like it. Other people have hobbies and interests I find ridiculous and I don't judge them for it, whatever makes them happy is fine by me. So why should it be different for me?

[(Anonymous)]

Same here. Still get teased for what i like too.

[elaminator]

I'm sorry, OP. Being passionate about fandom is harmless enough in most cases, so I don't think you have anything to feel ashamed about. (Especially to the point where you won't even mention it... I feel like most people wouldn't have that negative a reaction to you just saying, “I'm into this thing." As long as you don't steer the conversation to that thing daily when you know the other person isn't really interested, that's alright. And if we're talking f!s or tumblr... Post what you want. People can either skip your comments or unfollow you if they get bored. Fandom should be fun!) I say this even as I feel a bit guilty for reblogging nonstop Kingsman, but whatever. It isn't enough to make me stop.

As for the teasing, I know it sucks (I've had it too, mostly when younger; about LOTR, occasionally about gaming) but people who would try to make you feel bad about a hobby aren't worth listening to. (As long as your hobby isn't cannibalism. Which it isn't. Hopefully.)

I hope you can one day be open about your interest and find someone equally as enthusiastic.

As someone who used to be in the same situation:

[(Anonymous)]

Talk about them openly!
Trust me, it's such a huge relief that you'll actually end up talking about them less, if that makes sense, as you get an open dialogue going and have other fans to share with.
Make a tumblr blog! Be as obsessive as you want!

[(Anonymous)]

hi dethtoll

[caerbannog]

Aww. I doubt you come across that much of a screaming moron. Maybe you could switch to only taking about your passions on anon? Then people are less likely to link your posts from yesterday and today.

Or just jump into your fandom and enjoy yourself and try not to let whether others are interested or not bother you? It takes practice to not be bothered before it becomes habit to just enjoy yourself.

[darkmanifest]

I can't speak for anyone else, but of all things that annoy me in fandom, passion is not one of them. Just don't be rude (as in, getting your jollies from harassing or talking over other fans, or butting into discussions that aren't remotely about your fandom with huge rants) when you're obsessing, and it makes me smile to see someone being harmlessly enthusiastic instead of being a buzzkill (like too much of fandom is).

[(Anonymous)]

not OP

When people are obsessed enough, courtesy (and self-awareness) tend to go out the window, so that they think they're just being passionate when they're actually being rude buttinskys.

(I'm thinking right now of this one guy I know: I've learned the hard way never to mention anything I like to him, because I'll invariably get a long lecture about the infinite superiority of some other thing he likes.)

[darkmanifest]

Oh, yeah, of course, but in my experience, usually those type of people aren't self-conscious enough to ever wonder if maybe nobody wants to hear them ranting, let alone shut themselves up just in case.

[(Anonymous)]

I get it, OP. I am so stupid-in-the-closet about all my fandom obsessions and have been for probably a lot longer than what is healthy. Even now it's painfully awkward if something "fannish" comes up IRL -- because I never talk about stuff IRL, I try way too hard to toe the line between being way too obsessed and coming off as some fucking weeaboo or fake geek girl. I hate it because I really want to fangirl over random stupid shit IRL with someone who isn't going to judge me for it.

It's like, fandom closet door's open, I'm playing it cool while inside I'm screaming I LOVE THIS SHIT OMG I FUCKING LOVE THIS SHIT IT'S AMAAAAAAAAAZING SOMEONE TALK TO ME ABOUT IT OMG.

It is partly my fault I feel this way though, as I have been burned by people I did share fandom stuff with. But as I get older, I'm noticing just how hard it is to get back into things and just randomly bond with folks with no strings attached.

[(Anonymous)]

CrossGen anon?

Aww, I have even more obscure fandoms. It's OK.

[mudousetsuna]

Add me and I'll talk to you, anon! :( I can't guarantee we'll have the same interests, but I'd never shame you for being passionate about what you like! Also the others here have good advice, and even if you've not had any practice balancing fandom talk because people shut you down all the time, all it takes is finding the right people to talk to and learning a conversational give and take. If you're earnestly not trying to dominate the entire topic all the time, the other people who've shut you down are just being dicks.

[arcadiaego]

Honestly, there are plenty of people who are obsessive nerds about fandom (I'm one of them). It sounds like you have hang ups because of your past experiences which are preventing you from being able to find them, but they are there. I second the idea of a sideblog, you will find people who share your interests through that. :)